Hello lovely friends, am glad to be writing here today. Oh yes, I will be participating in this contest today. This particular prompt was not so easy for me to flow with because I didn't remember any personal miss judgement that was given to me, bit I will relate to the stereotype given to IGBO girls concerning bride price.
Igbos are a tribe from the eastern part of Nigeria. So the language is a general miss of communication that is know by all.
Now, when it comes to marriage rights, most of the people have I will say blackmailed that Igbo Girls are so expensive that to say, the cost of getting one wife they said will be enough to buy 100 cows. Friends, from experience that's not true. Many ladies are avoided now because of this false rumor that has eaten deep into the system of many.
See, it depends on the family you are getting married to. I say this without any apologies. My husband is from the middle belt that's Nasarawa State and immediately after we got wedded the younger sister followed. Calculating what the husband spent and mine we realized that theirs was almost two times ours.
This particular saying has made many girls part from the person that came to seek their and in marriage.
Well, I refused to be discouraged so I kept encouraging my husband and went in to do my homework with my family. Those that came over to our place for the occasion testified and jokingly was requesting to go with another wife.
My advice is, don't conclude on anybody until you have done good research.
All Northerners Are Bokom Haram
This saying started not too long now. You know all this crisis that occurs in some of the Northern states. Then I was a student at Gombe State University. One of the days my cousin's sister told me I should never bring a northern that want to marry him and if I do she will shoot him. I asked if she do have a gun, and she said till then.
Then when I brought my husband all of them were so surprised and at the same time disappointed, there are so many things they said that are not so good for public consumption. Put the point is, the way and manner some of my people take people here are not good at all. See any place you enter and you don't find an Igbo just pack and go because those places are not good. Here in the North, we have a lot of Igbo people. My landlord is an Igbo man.
Do you know that to date my sister don respond to me very much and I don't care about that so much? Well, how I cope with the situation is that I make sure to keep my secret to mysel$mysel$to avoid it being a family discussion. Also, I do my best to say fold about them, and with time they are seeing that we are one and have no discrimination. This strategy is working well for me.
This is my entry to the hive learners contest. You may wish to join.
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