Hate is a strong word and it abounds in the heart of those with a diseased mind (never planned for, things happen). Those who have poor way of seeing things, those who have experienced hate themselves, those who don’t forgive and many more. I have heard stories of people who hate people for no just cause and they can do anything just to make them those people even hate themselves. Most people who have hate in them become psychopaths if that hate happens often and uncontrollably. It’s fine to have hate for someone for sometime but once it extends beyond a certain level, then it causes those who feel this way to do things that they shouldn’t.
Our world is full of so much hate as it stands and it is really alarming. Now, you don’t even have to step on someone’s toes first before they start developing hate for you. The moment you and someone they love don’t agree, that moment you also become their enemies too. Interestingly, they even hold on to that grudge more than the person who is the main character in the whole thing. Hate make people do things just to make those they hate don’t enjoy their lives. They always look for ways to deal with their enemies and it can be really bad for those they hate.
In a case when I have someone who hates me so much, taking legal actions would only come to my mind when I’m sure that I can’t handle it on my own. First, I will want to know why that person hate me that much. If it is something that we can resolve, I will make efforts to resolve things between us but if you refuse, I will just continue praying for you. Maybe, I might be tempted to want to hate you back if you keep trying to spoil my reputation and my relationship with others. But, I hope that I trust God to help you manage that hate you have for me.
I doubt that anyone will ever hate me to the point when I can’t resolve it or at most keep my distance to make peace reign. I know how much my good reputation means to me, so I’m very sure if I know of someone that is trying to tarnish that reputation, the best thing I would prefer to do is to avoid such a person than taking them to court because if I do that, the probability of them changing would be zero. And also, it will also give them the vibes that they have won because they have made me act foolishly like them by giving the impression that I hate them too.
People will always have emotions towards us but we really can’t completely control the kind of emotions they will feel towards us. Sometimes, these people do what they do because they don’t see anything wrong with it. They might even be having fun but they just refuse to see the part that they are hurting someone in the process and that’s to show you how faulty their minds are. I have had people who lied and bore false witness against me a couple of times and most times I try to prove that I’m innocent but that didn't stop them sometimes. With time, I learnt that, trying to explain ourselves all the time is not always the best, action is needed more.
People are definitely going to hate me and they will try to hurt me in different ways but then, the only legal actions I can take is reporting to a higher authority not necessarily going to the court but if that hates becomes life threatening, I will move to a place far away and also make sure to keep trying to change the person’s mind about me through my actions. As much as I can, I’d love to live at peace with everyone but if it gets really hard, one of the best ways is actually avoidance because as a friend once told me, everyone has a threshold. Knowing that someone hate me will overtime just make me want to hate them back to prove that I can actually do something to them.
I feel hate towards people sometimes but the moment I realize it, I struggle with myself to love them back because I know hating them won’t do any of us good. But for others, I can’t really say but I hope they do the same thing and it’s our loss if we can’t. I will try to make them feel love for me but if they can’t I will just avoid them and keep praying for them. I know it’s a bit absurd to pray for someone who wants your downfall but that’s what I’d rather do than take legal actions because it doesn’t guarantee things getting better.
That’s my response to the Hivelearners topic on ”THE HATE YOU GET”.
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