"Saying sorry 😔 doesn't wipe away my beauty 😍! It's rather a good manner I was trained up to be."
I grew up from a society, clan or to better put it, a tribe which doesn't find it difficult to say "sorry" when you are wrong. My fellow Countrymen from Ghana will testify the tribe of Akuampem people have very polite attitude, very submissive to accept their fault when dealing with human situations.
To indirectly insult someone, we begin with "sorry 😔, you are this or that. I beg your pardon can I? Pardon me for this! I think I would have done it in this way instead of this."
These are all soft language that shouldn't be left from our mouth in attempt of building good relationship with others in our society.
I mean, it doesn't take away any valuable thing from us, neither do we lose something precious if we say "Sorry 😔!" to renew our good rapports!
But, some people view it in different perspectives that this can't be an usual thing which should be done unabated. They can't entertain any nuisance in the face when their partner will pretend stepping on your toes severally. They can't rebuke them in any way. Since their opponent would think that they are weak, timid or afraid them. The observable result we normally see is ignition of riot bringing a lot of disparities.
It kinda be if you do me, I do you kind of thing. For the way I was brought up, I sometime wonder 🤔 why most people have that bad mindset.
So, I am a type of person who have encountered so many challenges in an attempt to say sorry 😔 to many people who wrong me. The first one was back in high school and tertiary when friend took my leniency to be my weakness. In my high school, I was having a friend who would never bring provisions and other stuff to school. In Boarding house we have such kind of students who would pretend not to have anything, meanwhile they can afford to bring.
This Guy would always break my locker and consume my food without my notice. But when I find out he would deny of being the one. One day, I caught hime red handed breaking my locker to take my provisions. Due to shameless, he couldn't say sorry 😔. He ended up fighting with me.
Similar situation happened during our time of tertiary when we were about to complete. Things were really hard so we went find for part time job. When we were done with the job, only to realize that my friend has claimed all the money 🤑 squandered it without given me a pesewas. I was anticipating him to render an apology to me when I saw that he couldn't give me my share. This and many situation which had happened to me without requesting for an apology.
For me, I wouldn't be of myself if I don't say sorry when I wrong you due to the kind of home I was brought up. This has really helped me to maintain peace in my marriage. Saying is like swallowing pills to cure your illness, it's medicine 💊💉 the relief someone from stress. It rather heal our wounds and cleanse our mark. We are always free when we sorry while having bone of contention with your friends. There is nothing to stress ourselves.
What will happen if you've beef with a friends. He isn't in the house when his pet fell into a pit. You're the one to remove the pet since no one isn't around. Due to the difference between you and your friend, you'll choose not to rescue the pet. So saying sorry 😔😐 when you're wrong renew our friendship and let us relate well.
I would rather learn how say sorry rather than keeping things within me and not rendering apology. I would not be able to help as I expect. But, freedom are those who always live in peace and say sorry when wrong. Thanks for your attention!