Some people are bitter and resentful towards their parents, teachers and anyone who had a duty of care towards them when they were still in their childhood. Those that I've seen with such bitterness often say that some of the unpleasant habits they have are there, due to the sort of training they got during their childhood.
Maybe they have grounds to be bitter and resentful towards their parents... Maybe!
Maybe they are too unaccountable for their actions and they are just trying to shift the blame to others... Maybe!
One of the things I know from experience is that a lot of the things I do as an adult and so many of the things I choose not to do as an adult can be traced back to the sort of training I had during my childhood.
Now, I see parents who allow their kids to get away with just about anything while the parents sit and watch without applying any sort of disciplinary measure. In worst cases, the parents support their kid's negative behaviours and laugh it off with the usual "he's just a kid".
He's just a kid?
Wow! Your kid disrespects people and "he's just a kid". He does the same to you and "he's just a kid". He doesn't know how to do his laundry and has no clue about doing the dishes and he's already 10. But, "he's just a kid".
A kid that grows up that way will likely grow into a selfish, disrespectful and disorderly adult who doesn't know how to keep his life in order.
Sorry, I can't say the same about myself. Memories of my childhood are punctuated by several instances of balanced discipline.
I grew up as the first child in the family of five kids and my parents were very active in the workforce, trying to earn the money used to run our home. They were also very diligent disciplinarians.
One of the things I learned from my childhood is the practice of a lifestyle of Cleanliness.
Things like dishwashing, doing laundry, home cleaning, dusting and cleaning windows, cleaning electrical appliances and other sorts of cleaning exercises are among the things I started doing when I was still too young to make proper sentences in English language. Hehe.
My parents got me to do all these at a very early stage in my childhood and it was tough to do those back then. However, learning to do all these during my childhood has been playing a very good role in the life I've been living as an adult. At the moment, I don't ever feel burdened about any cleaning exercise. I enjoy doing those and I would rather do that than stay in a slightly dirty environment.
Now that I think of it, another side of this lifestyle of Cleanliness which I practice is all thanks to my Dad. My Dad never eats anything without washing his hands. It's really funny because he can just step out of the bathroom after taking his bath and walk straight into the dining. Yet, if you get to serve him food without a bowl of water for hand washing, he will make a case about that. Haha.
After experiencing that during my childhood, I now struggle to eat anything (including fruits) without first washing my hands. Hehe. Interesting!
If you happen to be among those who didn't learn a lot of good stuff in your childhood and you end up growing into an adult with lots of unpleasant characters, there is always a way out. Instead of manifesting those already unpleasant characters of yours, how about you try to unlearn those and learn to act more decently?
It's not going to be an easy adventure but, an attempt to improve your character always counts as a heroic move. Give it your best.
Thanks For Not Missing Any Full-stop Or Comma.
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