Romantic movies are one of the oldest genres of movies and they are the favorite of a large number of people around the world, mostly because of the way those movies portray relationships and that's also part of the reasons I don't like them, they don't reflect what relationships really look like in the real world, which is very far from perfect.
Romantic movies are based off on the imaginations or experiences of a person (the scriptwriter) or they are based on a book that is also written from a person's perspective on relationships, why then will you allow it to dictate how you manage your relationship? Using something you picked up from a movie in your relationship is the same as taking advice from a stranger on how to fix your relationship, most of the time it's a recipe for disaster.
Nobody is an expert when it comes to relationships, and that includes those romantic movies which are written by someone. Romantic movies set people up for a huge disappointment when they try to replicate the "perfect" relationships that are seen in most of those movies, and one thing I have noticed is that it mostly affects ladies (maybe it's because they are the highest consumers of those movies?)
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You want your partner to buy you flowers every week because in the movie series you're watching Santiago always buys them for Elena and she looks "happy", so you also want that happiness but you don't even like flowers but hey, as long as it makes Elena happy, then it should make you happy too, right?
Bella has a huge crush on Jason but he doesn't even look at her, so one day she decides to change how she dresses and then confessed her feelings to Jason. That was when Jason realized Bella is a beautiful girl and he started having feelings for her too, boom! A relationship has started, and you on the other side of the screen is watching and smiling sheepishly because you now know what to do about that boy you're crushing on in your class. It worked for Bella, it should work for you too, right?
Michael is late for his next class and is rushing off while trying to arrange some bunch of books he is holding but he wasn't looking at where he is going and he rams into Daisy, both of them fall with their books all around them. They both start apologizing and start picking up the books, their hands touch and they look into each other's eyes, he smiles, she smiles, you smile, and now you have a plan for Titi the most beautiful girl on campus.
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You know when Titi will be going for her next class, so you set your plan into motion and start walking from the opposite direction while pretending to be arranging books that aren't all yours. She sees you coming and gets out of the way but you can't let this opportunity go to waste and then you still ram into her but only your books fall and Titi starts raining all the world's insults on you as you shamefully pick up your books.
Are there instances when certain scenarios and events that worked in romantic movies also worked in reality? Totally, but it all depends on what you're trying to do and who you're doing it with. You can't be buying flowers for someone who doesn't like flowers simply because you saw it working in a movie, you can channel that idea into something the person actually likes.
Another problem with people trying to replicate relationships they see in movies is that they end up trying to do something that is accepted in other countries but isn't tolerated in yours. You and your partner have an issue but you decide to sing and dance in a bid to solve the problem because that's what you saw in zeeworld, how about talking things out? Your girlfriend is angry and flailing up and you try to kiss her because you saw it in a Hollywood movie, then she headbutts you 😬.
Romantic movies should be left where it belongs; fantasy and imagination. It shouldn't be mixed up with reality because relationships don't have a book of instructions and guidelines, what worked for one person might end up creating a disaster for you. Taking advice from a movie is the same as inviting a third party into your relationship, it doesn't end well most of the time.
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