We have all heard the saying; one man's meat is another man's poison and that basically means what one person hates might be loved by someone else, at least that applies to most things in life. We all have certain things we dislike (hate might be too strong of a word to use here) and sometimes we don't seem to understand why other people like it. But one thing I have learned over the years is to respect and tolerate other people's choices and lifestyles, as long as it isn't bringing harm to me.
Some people don't know how to do this and they always look for a way to criticize people who don't like the same thing they like. One thing that makes it easy for me to respect other people's choices is to put myself in their shoes and try to get a glimpse of what influenced their choices. For example, I have a friend who dislikes horror movies and I respected that choice because it's also the same way I hate romantic movies; everyone can't love all genres of movies, we are all built differently and have different tastes. So, I will list out the top 3 things I dislike.
Entitled people
Let's face it, is there anybody who likes entitled people? When I say entitled people, I mean the people who believe they deserve special treatment or privileges without having to earn them. They just expect things to be given to them without putting in the effort or showing gratitude. Maybe it's the way I was brought up or something else entirely but anytime I come across such a person, I always feel like giving them a headbutt. They always walk around like the world owes them something and they always want things to go their way.
Both genders exhibit such character but I think we can all agree on the gender who does this the most. The same way I dislike entitled people is the same way I dislike people who encourage such character and again, one gender comes to mind that does this most. Anyone can encourage such character but the majority of the people who do it are men; the ones looking for an opportunity. There's a derogatory term that is used for such men, and it's "simp". Anyway, like I said earlier, I tolerate such things when I see them but I react when such behaviour is directed to me.
There is this soup
The name of the soup is Ewedu, a Yoruba delicacy. I have always seen it in movies and social media and from the first day I saw it, I never liked it because it reminded me of a certain thing I find awful (I won't mention it 😅). Anyway, I saw this soup everywhere when I went to Lagos and a friend even offered it to me at one point and I was like "No thanks". To show you the way I dislike this soup, I will talk about something that happened last week. I tasted a new soup my mom cooked the previous day and it tasted off.
I instantly knew that it was a soup my mom hadn't cooked before, so I asked my sister what soup was and she said "Ewedu". My mood immediately changed and even though it wasn't looking like the regular Ewedu soup I see around (I think she used just the leaves), I couldn't eat it knowing that it was Ewedu. My mom came back from work that day and I told her "I say no to this soup", she was like "You don't like it?" Of course not, if someone asked me "What is your most disliked food?" The first thing that comes to my head is Ewedu, and the funny thing is that I have never even tasted it, I just don't find it appealing.
Wanting to be in control
One of the things I truly dislike is some people's over-controlling nature. What I mean by this is someone who loves being in control and always dictating what people should do. I find it annoying when I'm about to do something and someone nearby suddenly tells me to go do that same thing. Sometimes I just end up not doing the thing again but that's not even the irritating part, the worst is when the person wants you to do it exactly the way they want. Now I get it if you're paying me to do something but the case is different if we are just friends or a couple.
One incident I witnessed some years back at the university was when my then-roommate and his girlfriend were about to go out and she suddenly said she didn't like the shirt he wore and he should change it. My friend was like "This is my favourite shirt" but she remained adamant and insisted he change it. Then he did something I liked; he took off the shirt and told her that he was no longer going out again 🤣 My mom used to do something like that to me when I was a child and I hated it.
It's one thing to state your dislikes and give some advice but outrightly telling an adult what they should and shouldn't do is very annoying. I immediately let it known to anybody who tries to do such a thing to me that I don't like it when someone tries to control my life. Like I said earlier, I do tolerate all these things I mentioned as long as they aren't targeted at me. So, that is it, my top 3 dislikes. I'm sure other things would probably rank higher than these 3 but for now, these are the ones that come to mind.
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