Concerning the author's question is forgive and forget a package deal that is the first question asked?
In my own experience it is easy to forgive someone but not entirely forget about it the reason might be that the action thoroughly hurt you to the soul or you're scared it might resurface again. Don't get me wrong here I watched a movie once where the housewife was caught putting poison into the husband food, it took the whole family to beg the husband to forgive the wife but that scenario would you tell me I should eat the food she still cooks my life is at danger here I have forgiven her but we talking about my life someone who attempted once what makes you think she can't do it again am just saying let's think about that for a second if it had been you what would you have done?
Regarding the second author, I don't see why I can say I have moved on I have forgiven the person but that doesn't mean I can fully trust the person as I used to before I have moved on simply means I am being cautious of what might happen next time. Trust is build over time the fa t I forgive her doesn't mean I can fully trust her again this is my life am talking about she has to earn my trust back over time we only did once their action will prove if we can be together or not it doesn't mean I have hatred towards her or not just have to respect each other decision that's all.
Last question I don't think it's a realistic demand our brain may choose to forget but can never erase the record of those events that happen that's just my honest opinion about it so you can force me I will be sharing a personal story just short.
I once worked in a company where I was hold high and respected I do share with my colleague then and we do do business and earn profits I never knew my colleagues was eyeing my position, he always laugh with me he acts all innocent not knowing one day he planned a scene for me to get fired finally he wished came true I was sack I choose to forgive him there is nothing new about this world but I never forgot his action I use his action as a reminder to remind myself of what kind of human being are we and learn from my mistake all so good the same position he is been eyeing was given to him and the company got wrecked and quit business to me I feel I took the right cause of action so I don't feel it a realistic demand.
We are tend to be hurt each day we can't say because we are being hurt we shouldn't forgive the one who hurt us it might be painful that true but let learn to forgive even if you don't forget our brain still keeps a memory of the event and choose not to forget the pain is never a sin to forgive and even if you don't want to forget you just trying to set boundaries to avoid action not to repeat itself again.
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