Oh hell no! I don't! Or maybe I do when it favours me in the end by having them reconciled. But sad to say, I've only gotten a few good results from all the mediating I've been doing, the others is just me hiding my face after trying to help. The work of mediating should be put on a monthly pay, it isn't easy at all seriously.
There's still one major mediating work that's ongoing in my life, it's a must do work for me and I really do hope I succeed in the end. Well, I don't want to talk about that. I'll share a few others I've engaged in and the ones I just watched and saw how it played out.
I'm the kind of friend who anyone that's close to me comes to meet and talk about issues in hopes that I'll figure out a way for them. Not sure how that makes me a Mediator though but I always feel happy whenever I'm able to help someone sort out their issues.
One thing I normally do is study a situation myself instead of asking questions, I don't know why I like to do it that way but I think it started from when I tried to settle a quarrel years back, can't remember the details anymore but it taught me a lot on how to handle such situations next time.
Do you think introverts are the best mediators or the worst mediators?
Well, I'm thinking they are the worst but on very few scenarios, the best! Why am I taking it this way? I'm an introvert (even though I'm fighting hard to strike a balance between being an introvert and extrovert) and I can be very quiet even during crisis among my friends or neighbours or just random persons on the street.
Just a few days, two of my neighbours were in a very loud insult fight... Throwing words in the air like they aren't powerful and all I could hear and feel was hurtful as if I was the one those were being said to.
What did I do about the quarrel?
Almost nothing! I was actually inside my room when the quarrel started and I could hear the increase in volume as they both got angrier. I won't dare share what caused the quarrel because honestly, that wouldn't get me pissed one bit. I know I'm different though, it just felt like they were having something else in mind when they kept throwing words at each other.
If I didn't have to go out of my room at that point, I wouldn't have bothered myself about their quarrel but I had to. I stood close to the ladies and was trying to voice out my tiny "It's okay, you two should calm down" when I almost got hit by the big lady among the two 😅 the two ladies quarrel were two opposite, a fat huge one and a tiny short one 🤣 I couldn't stop imagining how the fight would look like.
Well, I tried my best to settle but I couldn't and I realized I'm the worse at open quarrel mediation. I can help a bit when a misunderstanding is brought up to me but I'm also very careful in whatever I suggest, I know very well how that can be of great help to my mediating job.
One thing every person should learn about mediating among fights is that "Use the stop words first before you start thinking of going close to separate the fight" and if it's to settle quarrels, be mindful of what you say to each of them and never take sides... It almost never favours anyone.
