There is no conclusion on who should give and how anyone should give, there is no forcing to follow any etiquette, tipping is a part of giving and an etiquette that anyone can decide to partake in or never, it's a matter of choice than an obligation. But the reality of this action isn't the case for some.
To be honest, I thought this tipping culture wasn't in my country as I've seen people wait for as long as they want to get their change from a buy than thinking of tipping it away. Not until I witnessed a few and actually did some myself. To think that, all that was in no way a forced situation either.
There is the joy that comes with giving for me and I believe for anyone who have learned how to give and understand the blessings that comes with it even though it never comes. When I saw the word "Tipping", I thought about giving and how giving tips connects with the art of giving.
Tipping etiquettes
I've given tips for the act of giving but on a general scale, tipping is just an etiquette that a lot of people have been doing and are still doing. I was actually surprised to read that there is a most used or average percentage that is set for people to give as tip in other countries to make a tip a tip.
The general tipping etiquette says "15-20 percent of the bill" you're paying, there is also a "when not to give tip" which is when the worker is paid above minimum wage. Now, this kinda takes tipping out of the art of giving as it sounds more of an obligation or a condition rather than an act of free will.
It doesn't make it a different culture entirely if those who want to tip as a way of giving and at any amount or way they see fit decide to do it their way. What is important is, how giving the tips will affect your life positively or make you feel good. But then, where the problem comes is, expectations.
Tipping expectations
I don't know about others experiences with tipping when expectations is involved but I've had one that didn't feel right and almost caused a tense between me and the worker I encountered at a store. Not surprised but there are people who expect tip at every sale or service they render after a few tips.
Especially when the person buying or receiving the service looks well to do and find joy in giving or tipping whenever, some people tend to want to take advantage of that fact, feel entitled and take offence when the tip stops coming or takes a break.
An extreme experience I had...
I have this soft spot for people who can do what I've tried and couldn't do so well so I tend to appreciate them in any way I can when they do it for me or to another. There was a time this lady rendered a service to me and I felt so impressed that I gave more than what we had planned for as payment.
It was all good feelings and smiles, it continued that way whenever she renders her service until one day, I didn't have much to even make the full payment. What she said was very unexpected considering what we've had. I can't take this payment, and it seems you won't give me my extra too".
I felt the entitlement she had about what I thought was just me showing appreciation and keeping her encouraged to do better at what is good at already. I didn't stop giving her tips but it didn't come as often as it did and this time, I make her understand that I just felt appreciative of her.
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