I had wanted to join the others to just skip to my own share of the story where I judged wrongly and later found out I had done wrong but then, the one time I did such was justified because of the situation. I didn't judge wrongly, it was the impression the person gave me at first but then, maybe I should have been more patient than I was to make a conclusion about her.
I had always thought true about this... First impressions matters just like we have "Dress the way you want to be addressed" but then, I've come to learn that "The character and story of a person matters too" before a judgement is passed.
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We can say the court room activities give us a very clear example of what it means to be very sure before you pass judgment. Even when a mistake is done during the investigation, the case is reopened for proper judgment so an innocent one won't suffer for the guilty one. It's same with her our usual or daily judgement we pass on people we see and judge around.
I've had people saying they thought I was the quiet type after their first encounter with me but realize that they were wrong when they see me display my true colour that I keep wondering how I let it show 😒 I've also judged a few of the friends I have today with their looks and first impressions but found out I was so wrong and we laugh over it anytime we talk about it.
I've witnessed a guy being arrested for a crime he didn't commit and ended up falling so sick, died days after... All in the name of dressing like the guys they were actually looking for that day. It was a sad story but it taught me for the first time that I should be intentional about how I appear always wether in the way I dress or speak or act in a new environment.
My story of judging wrongly is no different or maybe it is?
The first time I had an encounter with a young guy at a shop, I thought he was a thief. Yes, you heard me right! Why wouldn't I had thought so when he was dressed in black, had a face mask on and was acting like one who was running from something. I couldn't stop staring at him in a way he didn't suspect my looks but I was so sure he was a bad person 😂
I kept watching him maybe waiting for me to catch him stealing something in the shop but instead, he walked towards me and remove his face mask to reveal a nice smile on his face making me confused if I had really judged wrongly but I didn't accept my wrong immediately. I took some steps backwards from him thinking maybe he wanted to steal from me instead, I held my bag so tight 😂 but he just kept smiling as he walked towards me.
You don't remember me? I'm Jude! He said still smiling and it turns out he's a friend from long time ago. He had put on black wears that day because he had just got from his father's memorial and there I was judging to details with the way he appeared. Jude is far from what I thought he'd be even though it was long we last saw each other.
We keep laughing about it after I told him what I had thought about him when I first saw him at the shop. It's not a good thing to judge wrongly but when we do, we shouldn't hesitate to clear that away and see them in the way they should be seen by you. We are all humans, we shouldn't even judge and that's my stand 🙂
