To be under pressure is one of the things I hate the most in life, no one and I repeat absolutely no one can pressurise me with anything. People who allow others to control them subject themselves to pressure and I don't know the reason behind that but as for me, I'm the sole controller of my life and I can't bend to anyone's pressure at all. I take my stand on anything pertaining to my life and my Parents don't interfere in it.
The society we live in today, is full of various situations and if care is not taken, one might be depressed and succumb to pressure from various sides. Youths are mostly affected by societal pressure because majority of us want to be in vogue and never want to be tagged an oldie, but one thing I usually tell myself is that, it's not possible for me to have everything in the world.
There will still be some people that are better than me and likewise I better than other sets of people. So whichever way the situation might be, I just have to keep my head high and learn from every stages of my life. The ball is now in everyone's court to decide whether to be pressurized or not.
As a single lady who is in her early thirty, one of the major societal pressure females in my age range usually face is Pertaining to Marriage.
The questions you keep hearing at every corner will be, when will you marry?, don't you want to leave your Daddy and Mummy alone? Or 'your mates are already in their husbands house when will you go?'
I find these questions to be very irritating. I don't know why some people can't allow one to have peace of mind and respect boundaries. Please is marriage the guarantee to make Heaven? Why can't they let the single breath?
I find it really annoying when some people feel like they can arrange your life all because you have graduated from tertiary institution and started working and they feel the next thing should be marriage.
They don't even know your aims and aspirations, all they just want is for you do your things just like others are doing theirs, which is not possible. Someone older or younger than me can get married that's their problem, I have my life to live and I'm happy with it.
Sometimes ago, I attended a wedding ceremony of a lady younger than me, the next thing I heard at my back was 'Mojtee why are you wasting time, choose one of your numerous admirers and pick a wedding date'.......OMG... I was so pissed off and the woman that said such words to me regretted her life that day because I didn't take it lightly with her.
Please is it a crime for me to felicitate with others during their joyous moment? Why asking me such a silly question? It's just so irritating and I don't know how we get here?.
Lot of people don't know how to mind their business, they only focus on other people's life without knowing they are doing absolutely well more than them.
One of the ways I keep people off from myself is to set boundaries, you can't talk anyhow to me and go scort free. I'm respectable to all but when you are silly I talk sense back to you without wasting time.
I see Marriage as a life contract that must be taken with all seriousness. So I can't allow anyone to rush me into anything I will regret later in the future, depression is real and I can't subject myself to it at all. My priority is to be healthy and happy; and I make sure I do things that makes me happy.
So I'm not bending to any societal pressure to get married at all. I'm standing my ground with; there is time for everything and whenever the time is right, things will definitely fall in place.
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