To say the fact parenting is not an easy task, it takes the intervention of the divine to train a child well in this dispensation and its also a life time job. Right from the birth of a child till maturity will ones parent serve as an adviser and as well as a guide in ones journey.
Every parent have their own specific ways of bringing up their children:
Some parents are the busy type who leave the care of their kids in the hands of school teachers and nannies, they provide whatsoever the kids needs but doesn't have time for them so, the kids doesn't have parents to child relationship in any way.
Some are the very strict type in which the kids will be wondering if the people they live with are really their biological parents. This type of parents doesn't listen to their kids at all and always find what other says about their kids as been correct without asking for the true. They accuse, punish and discipline their wards on any little thing.
While some are neither strict nor lenient type this set of parents frequently switch from been strict to lenient and vice versa. They are those that correct with love, they discipline when necessary and also over look ones silly acts most times thereby giving you warnings. My parents falls in the neither strict nor lenient type, my Mom is somehow stricter than Dad, the type that always want to know the truth, she always makes her findings and doesn't judge easily while my Dad is very lenient, he doesn't get pissed up so easily but onces your offense has gone beyond limit then he will react with a slap.
I love the way I was raised, I appreciate my parents for been one of the best on earth cause it isn't easy to train 3 girls and 1 boy from primary to University level, I really salute their efforts.
How I was trained
I admire the fact that my parents taught us that integrity matters in all we do that is we should always make sure that our 'NO' is no and our 'YES' is yes in all situations. They also taught us to help, respect and love each other, my priority after God is my family, I love them beyond doubts. I've also extend the acts to friends and colleagues because it's an act that I've learnt from my parents.
I also love the fact that my parents always carry us alone with whatever plan they are making. They always sake our opinions over a move and on what to do, I could vividly remember when our house was under construction and we are running out of fund, myself and siblings with my parents sat down to strategized on how to maximize the fund at hand. On the long run, we all are happy when our plans worked out, so I was trained to do team work right from my family.
Another wonderful thing about my up bringing is discipline, you dare not stay outside the house beyond 7pm. Wherever we might be, we must be home before Dad's come back, we were strictly warned not to stay outside late. Also, my parents always says thank you, even if what you have given them is a pinch of salt or you helped out in running an errand they will surely appreciate and cherish your effort. They don't see your kind act as been small at all
My Dislike
My Dad doesn't say sorry often, I can count the number of types he said sorry during my childhood. Even if I'm been accused wrongly and the truth later come out that I'm innocent, though he won't beat you till be knows the truth. Instead for him to say sorry he will just walk away and allow the issue to slide like that while Mom do apologized.
How I will train my kids
Though I'm yet to be married, I've been in a job that interact with teenagers from different families. I learnt from my little experience that parenting isn't a child's play, so I've made up my mind God's willing to be friendly with my kids so that they can be free and have trust in me, I will be their consoler in difficult situations and also their cheer leader when they perform well.
I will teach them the ways of the Lord with discipline, love and respect just as I've learnt from my parents. I will also serve as their guide in the journey of life so that they won't go astray. I will correct with love and always apologize when I'm wrong.
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