Boyfriends and girlfriends break up, which can be so frustrating and emotional. But then I always see that as a stepping stone before marriage. Divorce, on the other hand, is not something to joke about; no doubt some marriages can be so toxic.
Divorce is so emotional, but at the same time, protecting your health and avoiding too much trauma is the best. Divorce will definitely affect both parties, especially if the mother who is affected already has children. That will be more serious because both the children and the parents will be affected. But the question is, who should we focus on? Is it the trauma of the children or the mental well-being of the parents?Well, both parties matter, as the trauma of the children can affect them in so many ways. Meanwhile, the well-being of the parents also needs to be balanced so they can focus on their children.
However, if I'm to pick them, I will pick the parents' well-being before the children's, with explanations.If a child is traumatized, of course it will affect them in a big way, but the fact is that they need someone who can be there for them, which is their mother or father.
However, it is good to know that sometimes divorce is even better for both the children's trauma and the parents' mental well-being. For instance, let us imagine a marriage whereby the husband is beating the wife all the time; meanwhile, they have children who happen to know what is going on, but the mother refuses to divorce just because she's thinking of the children. That moment is the moment to think of divorce, because if the children grow up like that, especially the man, they will also end up beating their woman because that was what they grew up with.
That kind of trauma will last long, and the female on the other side will also get married and will be expecting the husband to start beating her because that was what her father did. In a marriage where the husband beat the wife to death and the children were aware. What do you think of that trauma? It is definitely going to be forever for the children because of what the father does. And yeah, it's vice versa; the woman does that too.
If the parents are in their right senses after divorce, they will be able to manage the children by giving them everything they need, but if the parents are not in their right senses, who will take care of them and the children? So the trauma of the children is less than what the parents will face after divorce. In fact, some children can be so small that they will not even know what is going on.
In summary, my point is that both children and the parents need to be taken care of, but considering who should be the first person that needs it, it is the parents. The parents will be the ones to take care of the children, and for that sake, they need to divorce.
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