We met at a social gathering. It was the first time we became friends. Prior to this time, I have just had a heartbreak. My girlfriend of about eight years who disguised as an angel got exposed. She was just a wolf in sheep's clothing. Angela was quite a good lady during our dating period. We shared everything together and was known by my parents as the lady I have chosen to spend the rest of my life with.
I just discovered that she started keeping me at arm's length. I did everything to know what was wrong but she kept mute.
In the end, I found out that my cousin caught her cheating with another guy. She thought my cousin had informed me and couldn't forgive herself. One thing led to the other and my cousin had to let the cat out of the bag. She couldn't forgive herself and I wouldn't forget even though I have moved on and forgiven her. I told my wife this story eventually because I couldn't forget.
In life, we may forgive others for their wrongdoings but can we actually forget, the truth is that the human mind is made to remember. In fact, in the study of psychology of education, the human mind is created to have retention. This is why the study of history comes into play.
The Holy books, the Bible and the Quran speak about forgiveness but there is nowhere in the books where forgetting is spoken about. In the early prophets, God spoke about a mother forgetting her child, her suckling child. He mentioned that even if a mother forgets her child, that He, God, would never forget us.
When Jesus taught his disciples to pray, he mentioned forgiveness:
…… And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us…..
Humans are to forgive their fellows if they want their prayers answered. And for your offerings to be accepted, then, you have to forgive one another. If a man has to forget, then the world is likely going to be in shambles.
Imagine, that you have a bank account with a huge amount of money in it, and you suddenly forget, then one would suffer the consequences.
Many times, I speak to my wife and children about how my past has been very hard and rough. I told them how it was hard to get one square meal. There something's that happens to a man that would never be wiped away from his memory.
The study of psychology and even consider it that forgetting is a disease. This is why it is humanly impossible, natural good not to forget. When a child reads and is not able to recall all that he or she has read, it is believed that the brain retention capacity is not standard to keep information. Medically, some kinds or categories of diet may be recommended to help a child increase the capacity of his retention. I remember that my Integrated science teacher talks about eating eggs, fish and meat and also vegetables to help our retention capacity.
An African proverbs states:
If we do not forgive, there would be no one to play with.
Forgiveness is that ability that we employ to erase a wrong deed and continue a relationship. An individual is expected to forgive their friends if they also want to be forgiven.