Behold that tall young looking gentleman, elegant in making, black and handsome with a romantic voice. His compassion for people around him, selfless services, sacrifices, and so many other good attributes he possesses got me glued to him to date.
Growing up with my grandma was not easy for me to explore my love life due to severe restrictions from her. She is very good, strong, strict, and a disciplinarian woman who pays detailed attention to a girl child. Throughout my high school days, I had so many guys who wanted a close relationship but with the kind of fear my grandma subjected me to, I wouldn't even allow any man to make advances on my land before declining the request.
Anytime I was in a conversation with a guy, my heart will keep beating, I will be looking left and right in fear to check if my grandma or anyone that knows me or my grandma was around me. It was such a sad moment for me, I wasn't free with men all in the name of overprotection by my grandma. Then one day I asked her a question, "grandma, this caging and monitoring towards me, is it healthy? Is this how I am going to get married? Without getting close to any man, how will I get to study his character before saying I do?" I spoke a lot of sense to her and after some days, she sat me down and gave me some morale advice and some space as well.
I began to enjoy the peace of mind I have long craved in a relationship. I was hot cake those days😉, even my twin brother confirmed it, hahaha. A good number of guys were desperate for a genuine relationship with me but once I try getting closer, I will discover a character that scares me away. Don't get me wrong, I am not perfect too but I do know what I want in a man. I am also reserved when it comes to some activities involved in some relationships and that's what most men don't want to hear nor respect. They kept coming and I was a bit sensitive and already defined my goal in a relationship with a man. I even got a lot of referrals too, imagine people were recommending me to guys, especially those guys that reside outside Nigeria but no, none of them was my spec🤔, they would receive a rejection message from me, mourn over it for sometimes and move on. Is that one a breakfast too? Hell No!
Somehow, I tried to date one young guy too who wanted to be remoting my life but I backed out immediately after I saw that red signal. I still look back today and see the hell this particular young man is subjecting his wife to and thank God for such a quick breakup I made. While all these were happening, I was silently admiring and falling for a man🤦, I was already through with my WAEC and was waiting for jamb and admission into the university then.
The young man I was dying silently for is the same man I described a little in my first paragraph. He happens to be my uncle's close friend. He was in the university studying Civil Engineering. He normally visits my uncle each time he comes home for a break. I was always in the house as I was living with my uncle and grandma then so we do see and exchange greetings. The way he approaches life, the way he manages people around him, his reasoning, his kindness, laughter, and his magic voice got my attention🤩🤩. I didn't know him too was eyeing me. He could send me to get water for me several times just to draw me close and take a close look at me🤣 . Both of us were silent lovers, lol.
Fast forward to my days in the university when I finally got admitted. We were so fortunate enough to jam each other in a bank hall one faithful afternoon, ohh what a long-awaited moment alone for both of us. It was as if they loosened some birds in the air, hahaha. We quickly grabbed that opportunity, checked in a nearby restaurant, and had a chit-chat, yummy food, and drink together. Finally, we exchanged contacts.
Our love journey began❣️. He was in his final year in the university then and it wasn't too long after we begin our official relationship, he graduated and secured a job in Lagos State Nigeria almost immediately even before his NYSC. The whole thing was sweeting my body😉🥰.
So many times I forgot that I was still a student and get lost in chatting and speaking with him🤦, a good number of times, he came down from Lagos to Enugu just to be with me till I graduated. We had a beautiful moment together discovering ourselves, and sorting out our weaknesses. Immediately I was done with my studies, he couldn't wait any longer to have me close to his bedside and keep him warm all night😝. We said a big yes to each other and have our marriage done in 2014. It's been a glorious 8years of marriage together, it has not been a bird of roses ever, but the love we have for each other kept us going We have fallen in love with each other again and again, and yet, I have no regrets of my decision at my first love.
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