The death or the living who should attributes be given to.(Eulogy)
I got the picture from pexel and the edition is done by me
First of all, talking about Eulogy on my little effort of the definition is an act of making known the good and bad lifestyle exhibited by a deceased person.
Eulogy is defined by the Oxford language dictionary as a speech or piece of writing that praises someone or something highly, especially a tribute to someone who has just died.
I defined Eulogy as an act because it is what someone will actually do. A person performing this right at that particular moment is known as a Eulogist. Now since Eulogy is an act which is accomplished by a Eulogist, the Eulogist stands to give information either good or bad about the deceased person and because this Eulogist is human like any other person He or she can actually tell what's true about the deceased or literally decide to fabricate what is not true about the deceased. Beside there isn't a lay down government rule to punish any Eulogist who happens to tell lies about a deceased. Such people often go scot-free because allot of people wouldn't know if that's the truth or not except those who happened to know very well about the deceased.
What is really the essence of Eulogy at the first place
I wouldn't say giving tribute to someone who is late it's a bad act but in a nutshell I guess we are just fufiling the desire of our feeling at that particular point in time so that people may have a better picture of the dead person.
Often times it baffles me that some people could come up to give false tribute to someone who's late just to create an impression about the deceased to people that isn't true. Peradventure the lifestyle of the deceased person is totally out of the ideal essence of humanity but a Eulogist would want to fabricate stories that will make the lifestyle of the deceased person to be a good one as to thou that isn't the truth.
Just some few days ago we had a sendforth party of one of the staffs in my place of Industrial Training and among the program list was "Tell us what you know about Ayuba". Ayuba is the name of the outgoing staff so we where asked to willingly say something about him. I was so terrified when I began to hear pleasant stories about the young man but then I felt that is the right thing for us humans to be doing.
TELL ME WHEN AM WRONG WHEN AM ALIVE I WILL CORRECT IT NOT WHEN AM DEATH BECAUSE IT HAS NO USE.
This sentence above is where we are getting it wrong as humans, you tell my shot comings to another person then who is going to correct them?
Another thing again is
TELL ME WHEN AM DOING THE RIGHT THING IT WILL ENCOURAGE ME TO DO MORE.
I think this words carries basically the purpose of me writting this post. Appreciating ones effort to me simply means telling that person to do more, but when efforts are not appreciated it can bring serious demotivation to an individual.
We decide to tell other people how bad the lifestyle of a deceased was when on earth I don't know how that will be corrected, infact I consider that as hypocrisy because you owned the key to build and sharpen someone's life but kept it away from that person and you're now available to make fruitless speech about the soul of the departed. It isn't right as long as life is concerned instead, it is better off you perform your own duty by letting them know even if you think they wouldn't adhere to your corrections but clear your conscience by telling them what you think about their behavior.
All our colleagues in the place of work told Ayuba what they felt about his lifestyle so far and it was very encouraging to him because all the good and the bad side of him was voiced out to his hearing, Ayuba spoke after everyone was done with their speeches, and here are some of Ayuba's words
I am grateful to everyone for the words of encouragement and I will strive to work harder than you've known, I will also establish that bold spirit am lacking and I hope to do better in my new place of work, thank you everyone and I will miss you all too
Now looking at what Ayuba said above you will notice despite Ayuba is known as a hard-working man, he isn't that bold to express some of his problems out but as a result of the tributes given about him He is now aware of where he is lagging behind and he's ready to do better. Well, it is not something new that Ayuba might really know he is boldless but he was reignited when people made him know that they've noticed also that he is lagging behind in that area, I consider this as a right attitude to life and worth doing always.
It is not when Ayuba dies before Some sort of Eulogy will be compiled to come and be read out to people who wouldn't change anything about His Life again
I seriously believe giving tributes to someone is like advicing such an individual and it should be included in some of our routine celebrations we usually do example on Birthdays, sendforths and many more important events we could think about.
In as much as Eulogy can change the life of people who might be touched by the story of the deceased Eulogy should start from the life of the deceased when He or she is alive it will make more sense and balance the both sides.
If Eulogy is only given attention to when an individual is dead then only the people benefit from the stories read or said about the deceased but if it starts from the world of Life before the dead I think the both sides will be balanced.
