Being able to read minds can be overwhelming, especially for the mind reader. You know every thought, move, fear, secret, etc., of another person, in this case, your partner. This might seem like a good thing, but the emotional and psychological burden it places on both parties is immense. The danger it brings to the "victim" cannot be changed or ignored.
For the mind reader, he or she would definitely not have peace of mind due to the constant invasion of thoughts, emotions, and inner battles that aren’t theirs to carry. We all go through many things, and our minds are always processing countless thoughts. Being tuned into that 24/7 can feel like mental chaos. It’s overwhelming, and such a person can eventually go crazy if they’re unable to filter or disconnect from it.
If I were to find out my partner has been reading my mind for a long time without me knowing, it would be a deal breaker for me seriously. This means he has had access to my thoughts even without my consent. It’s like someone walking into my soul without knocking or asking for permission. That would come as a massive shock and could leave me feeling completely disoriented.
All those times I thought I had privacy - those quiet moments of reflection, struggles, dreams, or insecurities I believed were mine alone, it turns out I’ve been like an open book, silently read over and over again. That, to me, is a breach of trust.
It would be terrifying to discover that all the thoughts I assumed only I knew about, like my doubts, fears, jealousy, and little white lies were never really mine to hold secretly and the fact that he never told me about his ability feels like deceit. I would definitely be angry because now I feel exposed. Worse still, he could manipulate me based on those thoughts without me even realizing it, while I assume he’s being right or fair.
What makes it even harder is knowing he might not give room for personal change or growth, because he would constantly be judging me based on raw thoughts that may not reflect my true reality. Thoughts aren’t always the truth, we sometimes think out of fear, stress or pain.
It would be hard to rebuild trust because no matter how loving or kind he is, the fact that he is always ten steps ahead of my internal world puts him in a dominant and controlling position, and I wouldn't want that. This wouldn’t create the space for us to grow together or enjoy the beauty of discovery in the relationship. To me, this is a deep emotional violation.
I don’t want to be in a relationship where I feel unsafe or anxious, constantly aware that my partner could access my thoughts at any time. It’s like my mind becomes public property. This is never romantic but invasive. I, on the other hand, would feel exposed or inadequate because it’s like my life is on display.
Being an open book without choice isn’t intimacy, it’s emotional surveillance, and that has killed the genuine connection we’ve built over time. If he could hide something as big as that, then I have to ask myself: What else could he be hiding?
Some people might want to give a second chance, considering how powerful love can be. But what’s the possibility that he would stop using that power even after discussing it? Even if both partners are willing to build a new kind of trust, there’s always that fear, "Is he still reading my mind?"
For me, it’s a big 'NO'. I wouldn't want to be around someone I can’t fully express myself around or who makes me fear my next thought being exposed. I wouldn’t want to feel like I’m being silently analyzed or judged while being seen as something I’m not. That’s not love. That’s surveillance in disguise.
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