I tend to avoid those kinds of people who feel they are always right when it comes to arguing. It's as if they went to the school of arguments and graduated with a first-class degree. They take arguments to the extreme, and sometimes, you would wonder if it's the same thing we are even saying or just something that doesn't call for so much seriousness.
For these people, I don’t see myself prolonging matters or finding trouble. I am very gentle and go on my own, and once there’s trouble looming, I step back or just move forward because I don’t have the strength to go back and forth trying to gather more facts to justify my point, especially when I already shared my view but, one way or the other, the person isn’t just agreeing. These ones just want more problems for themselves, and most times, they provoke you into making it a conflict in the end.
Right from time, I've been one who does not have the strength to stay long in an argument or anything that may result in a conflict later on except it’s just for fun where everyone flows together, and in the end, we part ways. Moments like that are always interesting because while sharing different perspectives on a debating topic, we learn. But once any situation is getting tense and heated up, just know I’m out of it.
There was a time when I was in school. My friend came crying and knocking at my door very early in the morning to come and settle the conflict between her boyfriend and a coursemate in the compound.
I was inside hearing the shout, but I intentionally didn’t come out because I didn’t want any trouble for myself. At the end of the day, they would say I was siding with one person, or it would turn into a situation where your words would be held against you. Besides, why very early in the morning? Some people just create trouble unnecessarily.
It was later I realized it was a small argument that sparked into a fight. I realized who was at fault, but no one was ready to apologise or surrender to the other person.
Truth be told, I was surprised she could come to me for such because I don’t know how to settle conflict among people. Before any argument starts turning into a heated conversation, I try my best to caution them and show reasons why no one should argue with each other. But when these kinds of people aren’t ready to listen, I just move away and perhaps get an adult who could handle them.
This is why I am mostly all by myself, and when things like that happen, I won’t be there. Hardly would you even find me around such a place, except my attention is called upon to chip in my understanding. And once I am done, I leave, because I know when an argument is turning into something else and to avoid this, I step back.
I value peace so much that while I try to maintain that space with myself, I also love for everyone to be at peace with each other rather than going the extra length to cause themselves injury or complications that may happen because of one small argument where no one was willing to surrender.
Sometimes, it might be that they are saying the same thing but differently. One wouldn't want to agree, but they want their own input to be acceptable, and the next person wouldn't want to be left ignored, too.
So, I’ve been one to avoid any argument, and if there is ever any, I try to talk to the person calmly about it, and if I see he or she isn’t ready to end it, I stay back, and that’s it. If you can't try to settle peace with me just because of one argument, then I don’t see why I should be wasting my time.
In all, I tend to make peace in the most simple way and also try to avoid anything that could lead to a conflict. This is more reason I tend to agree with you on issues where I see the other person isn’t ready to accept or see the truth in it. But once I can understand your perspective, it’s fine. I don’t force myself into making you agree with me, and I also would hold onto what I believe is the truth.
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