There is this popular saying by our parents and guardians that when it's time to leave the home for the first time, either for a greener pasture or when we have gained admission into the university, they will remind us of who we are and ensure we do not go against that identity but to always remember how we were brought up. This is something I held onto when I was leaving home for the first time and remembering how my parents kept emphasising the word, I made sure to make them proud as I never left such a path to go for something bigger than my power.
It is easier to get influenced easily by friends and mates while away from our parents' reach because we assume we can do whatever we want and feel like without them seeing us. We focus more on the freedom we ever dreaded and just want to explore new ways we couldn't achieve while under their roof.
There are many times that the friends I kept then had tried to drag me to late-night parties and places I shouldn't be with the confidence that they knew every crook and corner of those places but would refuse because the words from home would constantly ring in my ears and for me not to tarnish their image and mine, I had to compose responsibly.
There was a day my aunt had to share one of her fears with me when I was still in school, they were always afraid of what I might be doing without them there because they feel since I am a lady and do not have parents to support me, that would make me go into bad means to make money, so she had to keep begging my other aunts to always send me money every time so I don't feel intimidated or oppressed by my peers which could tempt me to follow their ways.
I laughed when I heard that and the only question I asked her was: "Mummy, don't you ever trust me?" Even my late Grandmother had to ask if I wasn't into prostitution to get the money I was spending on myself and my siblings because of Hive money. I tried my best to explain what this platform does but she didn't understand me. I had to leave her to think and say whatever she wanted about me.
One thing I will never deviate from which is my moral code till now is being content with what I have and never feeling inferior among others to the extent that I am tempted to take the wrong way to survive. I do not see myself using my body in the wrong way to get what I want or involving myself in atrocities to make money because I believe in contentment which is a great gain.
I am always excited when I hear my family saying they are proud of me and trust that I wouldn't do something that will bring shame to the family because they have watched me and how I am always okay with what I am being given and I wouldn't try disappointing them.
A lot of times, I see people of my mates getting the best and doing what it takes to live the best life but that wouldn't make me feel tempted to do such nor would I compare myself to them as I believe one thing: we all have our different times and so, I should only be patient.
There are always consequences when we take the quickest ways to achieve what we want without waiting for the right time. Though these achievements are sweet and fun, the end leads to damnation. Since I know this and where it would lead someone in the end, why do I need to go in such a way also? I have learned to maintain my integrity and wait for the right time.
No matter what happens and how life treats me, it won't make me break the code of contentment because I know another thing: Better is a dry morsel and quietness with it than a house full of feasting with strife. This is found in the book of Proverbs 17:1.
The images were sent to me by my sister from Germany
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