Scrolling the status section of my WhatsApp, I saw a friend's post her own picture, she looked beautiful. I read her caption for the picture but it wasn't about beauty. She addressed the issue of lying as an adult. She was particular about how grown-ups tell lies and feel nothing is wrong about it, the ease to lie just to avoid a thing (funny enough, they aren't avoiding something serious enough), they had just gotten used to it.
I could relate deeply to her caption, because I own my words. I can't articulate exactly how I have brought myself to refine my mind to never have a reason to lie. One thing was profound in her caption "will you beat me or kill me if I told you the truth?) and that's it!. At this age and little experiences I have accumulated in this earth, I would confidently tell you the truth because the truth will set me free: every lie will somehow need another lie to cover up the previous and, the loop continues until the truth is told.
Aside from owning your words, making sure to do what's needed to be done in the right way will safe you from situations that will tempt you to tell lies. Being responsible enough will reduce drastically the chance to tell lies.
In my culture, I've head the phrase **"white lie" ** in movies and in real life. The movies projected a solid reason why the lie had to be told, the cost. Have you seen videos online where kids ask their pregnant mom how babies get inside the stomach? The women are always shocked and come up with several funny reasons (lies) because a very young kid shouldn't know about that yet or would not understand. Besides, the major reason is because kids are super curious, they tend to keep finding answers to their questions until they are satisfied.
Another relatable one is this, in the early 2000 most parents have a very funny way of making their daughters abstain from any sexual act or even knowledge. They often say "if a guy touches you, you'll get pregnant". And trsut the African parents, they say it with a very stern expression and aura (lying demands good action of course). We believed it and that lie was one basic but solid reason for abstaining from sex for teenagers.
There are events that would warrant one to tell a lie only because of the kind of consequences that comes with telling the truth, but the fact remains that those kind of events are very rare. They barely come around. So, other times when people who get into situations where they have to lie to save themselves or protect something important, it is often due to their own previous actions. Got really late for work and had to tell lie because your boss was ready to sack you? Whereas you got late because you allowed other activities take most of your time.
I've heard of a wife or husband tell lies the partner only because of how the partner would react, sometimes it is very valid to do that, but what if the partner later knows the truth: it might be a worse reaction. Lies don't last, truth aren't sweet but saves a lot.
Telling lie as an adult is on another level, I mean telling lies for silly reasons. It reduces respect and honour you ought to earn from men. I believe every one of us has encountered an adult telling an obvious lie to save themselves but it was only reducing the respect they had. Embrace the truth, it's hard and bitter sometimes, but it will always beat a lie.
Not to come off as one who has never told a lie, but lying is disgusting, especially when done repeatedly or with fiercy and rude attitudes to avoid being confronted. A crazier experience is when a person's cover has been blown but they don't see the need to apologize genuinely rather they give an excuse as to why they told the lie, even tell another lie to cover the previous one. The loop doesn't end, until the truth is told.
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