It is one thing to know how to make friends and it is another thing to know how to let go of friends when the time comes. I think I am not so good at both. I had only very few friends before gaining admission into the university, were just 5 then and I never worried because of my personality; I was very introverted and can not start or hold a conversation with anyone who is not my friend or family.
Getting to the university I somehow became friends with about 8 people, 6 of us are in the the same department while 2 are in a different department. I was closs to just 2 because I had still not stopped being and extreme introvert; a year later, I could have conversations with any of them and was very free. Well, life happened we were no longer close for several reasonable and unreasonable reasons. Every one splitted into 2's and 3's while I was in between because I really didn't have issue with anyone. I guess maturity and better mindset kicked in later on and everyone were cool with each other but no longer close. I was close to 5 and our friendship was awesome.
Recently, two out of my friends, a guy and a lady are not cool. It started when the guy traveled and didn't inform this lady, she only got to know from another person so she got pissed. The guy stopped visiting her place, then it happened again, this time the guy had to travel when we had something important to do in school, he chose the travel which was also important. This time around the lady told the guy why she was pissed; she was because he took the travelling more important than his education. This guy didn't reply her well in the vn he sent to her, sounded as if she was disturbing and stressing him. I tried to bring them back together but it wasn't working because the guy is not available.
The lady was available so I went to her and heard her side of the story (I heard from the guy too). The problem they had was obvious; the guy had been really busy, the lady was very concerned about him and his education. But when she got a voice note reply from the guy she felt like she was forcing herself and needed to know her place. I tried to let her know and understand that the guy was just to busy and it was something he could avoid, though he ought to have reached out through a call or text but he didn't. His voice note reply was not cool because he was too stressed from the work he went for when he travelled. I also made the guy see the reason why he should have reached out sooner and keep in touch with the lady.
I stayed in gap for both of them since we are all friends and I don't think I want to be in between if they stop being friends. I made sure both of them met and talk things out but it didn't work because the lady had a visitor that evening when I brought the two of them together; it was not possible to discuss such matter at that time. I would have tried it once more but this guy is not available again and I really don't know what to do. My last resort is to pray for them and ask individually if they the guy and the lady still wants to be friends with each other; their individual response will determine it, not me because I think I've tried and can also not force two grown ups to be friends.