Life is not balance that is to say it is UNBALANCE, yeah you might be wondering what I meant by this phrase but fret not it is very true, it is something you and I know because even most people from my country now joke with the word " THIS LIFE NO BALANCE" not once but on different occasions...
Apart from this words, there are a lot of people you see that you don't know what they are going through and if you don't choose your next words carefully upon seeing them, you will find yourself in serious trouble, this kind of act, do you still feel like life is balanced???
"An hungry man is an angry man", this phrase has really explained itself that we shouldn't joke with an hungry man with food, it is just like taking a meat 🍖 to go feed a hungry lion and on getting there, you decided to play around with the lion with the meat 🍖, what do you think will happen between you and the lion?? Lolz 😂🤣...
These introduction sentences above are just to tell you that not many are happy and the few that are truly happy don't want to be unhappy, but in the world where we have two or more people, different backgrounds, different tribes, one or two disagreements, misunderstanding will surely occur...
Some misunderstandings might only be with the mouth and there are some heated argument that will lead to war lolz, when I say "war", I mean a big FIGHT...
We all have different personality, perspectives and also sense of understanding, you can't always maintain peace in a surrounding because some people main purpose in this world is too taunt and force you to have a fight with them because they themselves are not BALANCED...
If you are following me up from above, you can see it is all coming back to unbalanced life...
We cannot see things the same way, we cannot do things the same way, why not sit down and look for a way around it, something that will benefit you both in the long run but you will always want three to four people to hear you arguing and from words it will result to a big FIGHT...
I have had more than one experience as a MIDDLE MAN in fights, about 80 percent of it didn't turn out well for me because I was almost damaged in the process but I still tried my best to calm one down..
The 20 percent was successful because I was heftier than them and most importantly the two fighters are my friends so it was easy but not easily easy for me...
MY EXPERIENCE AS A MEDIATOR ( MIDDLE MAN) FOR TWO ANGRY BIRDS..
About two years ago, I was in SS3 and it was towards the preparation of SSCE and during that time in my school, the other students from my school branches will be brought to our branch to join us in a general revision...
Lo and behold they came in one day and the first day they got to our school, we both looked at each other like who are these ones, they all looked crazier than us, we thought we were the craziest amongst all branches but they seems to be tougher, we could see they were all different..
Weeks after settling in with us, I am a free guy so I have bonded with almost everybody because I don't know who will be beside me in the hall, so i try to make friends but there is this guy from the other branch, he is very stubborn, rude, arrogant guy but irrespective of his attributes, I still bonded with him to some certain levels but there was still space for respect...
Most of my classmates didn't like this particular guy because he likes hurling insult at people and he is someone who swears and uses the curse words most times, he is razz and one day an heated argument brewed up in the class after break..
What was the cause, football, he injured one my friend in a football match, it was a match between schools and he injured my friend severely and he was still claiming it is football, my friend couldn't stand up and after several encounter, it started as insult and curse words until we got to the class, he didn't want to accept he was at fault...
He then said one word that made another guy who wasn't in the picture to interfere, he already had the guy in mind because of all his lousy attitude and before we all knew it, from exchanging of words it became an heated argument, at first I didn't interfere Because I was tired from the ball and from English, It became Yoruba curse words and the other guy said something about his parents and the next thing was a punch to the face and before we all knew it, it was war...
As a prefect and also a class captain, I stood up immediately and I tried to intervene because my position was at stake, the mistake I made was that I shouldn't have stayed in the middle of the fighters...
Trying to mediate between the two fighters I went to the middle and the next thing was blow brush 👊 to my ear 👂, at first I thought my ear had fallen off, I was pissed but the fight wasn't my fight but I left the middle immediately and went from the back...
I had to carry my friend out of the class by force and the others tried to hold his opponent down, my ear were still woozing but the main aim was that I stopped the fight that moment...
After the fight, one was outside and the other was inside, luckily for me our class was in the next building and the principal wasn't around so we had enough time to settle, I didn't say anything until everybody was calm, I talked to my close friend first and told him, he should have never interfered in the first place that the fight wasn't his but he was trying to make me understand that the guy need to be controlled, a lot of people was with my friend on this issue but I tried to let him know we are in the school premises and my position is at stake if this goes on and then he calmed down and headed inside with me...
I went to the other guy, the guy from the other branch, he was my friend also but no too close, I took him out and explained a lot of things to him, told him not to ever bring other people's parents into a silly and uncultured conversation like this that it is disrespectful, since he didn't mention your parents you shouldn't have mentioned his..
I put him in my shoes, he was being adamant about it but I told him he should learn to reduce his things, the insult and negative words should be reduced, when he does something wrong he should apologize and no harm will befall him...
I had to let him know if he had apologized to the guy he injured on the field, non of this issue would have been risen up in the class to lead to fight...
I stated some points to him about how he should have treated the issue, it was easy for me because I am a very good talker, I talk alot when the need arises, I calmed him down and he apologized to the one he injured on the field...
About three days, everything was fine amongst everyone, we were guys and guys don't tend to keep grudges for too long, it ended when we started talking about football reviews which I brought up the following week and from there everyone became happy...
In summary, after calming both party down, I tried to let them know their mistake in the process and therefore telling them how they should have handled it and knowing fully well that one won't go beg the other, I decided to bring up guys favorite and discussed topic which was football...
In conclusion, after calming them down, I showed them both my ear 👂 and how they caused me pain while trying to end their fight, we all laughed and joked about it but I felt like it was a good price to pay since they settled and listened to me...
But in my life, I will never settle fight from standing in the middle, I will always go from the back and then possibly carry one of the fighters outside to avoid me getting hurt... Be strategic when you deal with two angry birds....
If I had gotten angry because of the blow to my ear, then I am sure we won't settle that fight and it would have escalated but I was a leader and I should lead by example...
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