Hello community and friends, I've had to intervene several times in the middle of an argument or fight and always or almost always no one is usually right. In these situations, the essential thing is to talk.
As we can see in today's world, even the oldest and most experienced have a hard time sitting down and talking to solve problems. Each one wants to be right and try to be superior to the other, but the most important thing is to try to make these people feel, stop and think above everything they say. But talking has to be constructive, without insults and always looking for solutions, it doesn't matter to talk to solve problems if we are not willing to give in on our part so that we can understand each other.
What I find most difficult to see are family members offending each other and even fighting for no apparent reason over petty things. The family should be something of union and never of disunity.
The family must be a hard core where love and friendship must prevail, but unfortunately this is not always the case. The human being is sometimes very complicated and difficult to understand.
One of my many experiences happened with two people older than me. I must have been 18 or 19 years old and still studying at the time, and when I came back from school I heard a lot of screaming, it was like a war.
When I started to approach I saw two brothers arguing a lot about a house of their parents who had passed away and they both wanted the house and they told each other that one had stolen the other because of the parents house each wanted to keep it to live and the other wanted to sell the house, but whoever wanted to keep the house didn't have enough money to keep it to give the part to the other brother and so it was a big mess.
The neighbors and the local people were all at the window and stopped to look, but no one wanted to go and mediate that conflict.
When I got close they started hitting each other with shoves and kicks and I couldn't let it go so I had to do something.
I took the initiative to put myself between the two and despite being kicked by one of them, I managed to stop the fight between the brothers there.
I tried to take one to one side and then to take the other to the other side.
However, their wives were watching everything and they didn't help either as they also insulted each other.
I managed to calm the mood and with the help of a friend of mine who showed up I started talking to one of them and this friend of mine to the other.
We managed to reach an agreement that the next day we would mediate the conversation and so it was, we set a time and a place went to the village garden and a friend of mine and I started talking with the two, there was still an insult or another but in the In the end we managed to reach an agreement in principle and the brother who wanted to keep the house managed to take out a loan and gave part of the money to him and kept the house, the other brother who wanted to sell the house received his money and everything was resolved .
Funny that at the end of this negotiation, which started aggressively, both of them understood each other with our help and in the end we all went to dinner and socialize, it seemed that nothing had happened.
The lesson to be learned from all this is that without dialogue there is no peace and peace cannot be made with violence because violence breeds more violence and we never achieve peace.