People are different from each other in many ways, their way of thinking, dressing, speaking, and attitude even walking style. It all represents an individual personality. However, we do try to copy ones whom we like but still there are differences which are sometimes good and bad both. There are certain norms to whom people of the society adopts and gets used to it.
There are numbers of things which I don’t do whereas people around me like my friends, colleagues and people in my society used to do such things as normal practice. It is very easy and simple to differentiate between the right and wrong but nowadays people do not think that way and guess what, whatever they do, they say it is the right thing whether it is related to business, religion, culture, family or social life.
The most important thing which makes me different from the people around me is the use of abusive language. Yes, it is true and I always think of it that why it is so common to use bad words in a fun way. Since childhood, it is stuck in my mind. Maybe it is because my Mother always taught me not to learn or copy the words which are said by the people outside or the way she has guided me in my early school days because that is the time when a child enters the real world and lots of different and new things are waiting for him.
It is normal to hear such cursing, swearing and abusive language from class mates, shops, public transport I think everywhere. But since my childhood, I don’t like such language. Neither I use nor I stand by those people, just walk away from such gathering or people and ignore it. But when I grew older, I thought it would be difficult for me to survive in this cruel world if I do not get along with the people around me. So, I started just ignoring it at the most but for the people near me, like my close friends and close colleague, they knew it and take care of not using any bad words while talking. They do respect me for this and agree that my company do change their way of talking and make them realize that it is useless to just abuse, curse or swear without any reason. Even few friends who do use such words, apologize to me immediately that sorry, I forgot that you are sitting here.
They also gave it a name “Darwazay” means doors. It happened when we were having a discussion and I told them that I can also use many bad words but I have kept them in a room and do not open that door and do pray that door never opens or else I would be the worst person you have ever known. So, they all make it a joke and used to say "do not open doors please!!!" to make fun of me. This is acceptable.
There are times when a person gets angry or in bad mood so he/she automatically curse, swear or abuse. I am also a human being and have same nature so in those hard times, I use my own made words like SHEEMA SHAMA, JHIM JHOM, JHOL JHAL, TWEETAR, LI MA RASSA etc etc which does not mean anything but gives you pleasure that you said something different. Such language goes viral and in my friend’s circle, at office, these words are used instead of any bad words.
I also remember that when I was in Egypt, one of my friend was addicted to abusive language and say such words in normal conversation. To be honest, in only few months, he confronted that my company has changed him a lot and he do not abuse that much now. I am so happy that I make a little change in them which is useful in their lives. I am so proud of it and hope that this thinking would be carried on by my kids to make a better and respectful society.