For some time now I’ve been able to train myself not to be surprised by a lot of things people say or do to me. Even if I say I have trained myself I can’t still deny the fact that some people have it in their DNA to do the most absurd of things that’ll definitely make you question what they did to you in the long run.
I’ve always told people that when you do good and you want that person to repay the good that you did for them, you should make it known to them that one day you’ll expect them to turn up for you when it’s your turn. I don’t think you’ll be doing yourself any good when you automatically expect them to repay your good with good. Well, we can’t also blame it all on them as it’s in human nature to expect good to be paid with good but then we must also accept that not everyone is “good”.
That is why people preach to us that you don’t always have to go out of your way to do good. I used to think that one could work with this but in the long run I realised that it all depends on how you feel about what you do at the end of the day.
If you are someone who will feel comfortable with paying evil with evil at the end of the day then I think you should go for it. But if you’re someone who is not comfortable with paying evil with evil then I think it’s definitely not for you to be taking revenge.
I have this particular friend of mine who used to take and take from me. Now, I am someone who rarely asks for favours and I pray God never puts me in such a situation where I’d have to go outside my family to ask for help. So this friend of mine is someone who didn’t actually care about taking favours from me so I had no problem. Most of the time he used to ask for very little favours so they weren’t anything to worry about. I granted 99% of them as they were small things he asked for.
Now, cause it’s human nature I always thought oh, this is my guy and when it comes to my turn he’ll do the same for me. it didn’t take me asking for me to realise that he was only using me. A day came by where we finished having a conversation and I was on my way home. This friend asked that I buy something so we eat and said I didn’t have the cash. This guy said nothing and went behind my back and bought it.
Now I wasn’t hurt by the fact that he didn’t give me something but I was shocked that he waited for me to leave before he bought it. This definitely shows that he ain’t go me like I got him and I didn’t need him to do something big do me to realise that. Since then most of the requests he made was declined by me.