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Hmm, when I looked at the word parenting from my dictionary, I realized it's not an easy peasy task, but to be candid, an arduous task and this is because raising a child and educating a child from birth to adulthood takes more than a effort and to me, it's not a child's play going by the fact that, a child's brain, when giving birth to is a empty one otherwise called tabula rasa a Latin word which means a blank slate which has nothing pre existing in it. And with this, it takes good parenting to fill the blank slate and space with something needed for the successful and meaningful existence of a child right from birth to adulthood.
So, going by the topic, I would like to express and share my own view about what the absent of a parent either the father or the mother can cause on a child. One thing I believe in as a person is that, nothing can stop the existence and the success of a child who's determined to be somebody in life,.though, it takes the hard work of parents to guide a child through birth to adulthood, but one thing that's certain is that what would be would be no matter what.
Now, can the absence of one of the parents affect or have impact on a child? To me, I don't believe the absence of a parent can influence the life of a child and this is because, even a child being raised by both parents atimes may not be better off to that one raised by a single parent. So, it all depends on the path laid down by the parents and most especially what has been instilled into the mind of a child maybe good or bad.
Though, some people believe that, a child raised by single parent would have some touch of the bitterness of what led to the separation of both parents in his or her heart. Yes it's true and No it might not be and this is because, I have seen a lady being raised and bred by a single mother, but when she later found out what led to both parents separation she stood neutral between both and did not let the bitterness instilled in her by the mother override her own stand on the issue, though it took long for her to take her stand, but at the end, her action brought both parents back together.
Also, I have also seen another lady that refuse to show love to her father nor have regard for other men just because of the bitterness being instilled in her by her mum because of what led to the separation between her mum and her dad. This lady in question believed no man is good and as a result, she has no regard for any man, just of recent, I had discussion with her, and I told her that with this her attitude, I don't no man will be willing to marry her, but her response was to shocking when she said, marriage is not even in her plan, she said men are devilish and can't be trusted. I was so embarrassed when I heard this from her.
So, child upbringing is not about the absence of any parent, it's about those things instill in the mind and brain of a child. Someone like me was raised by my dad, though, my own case was not about separation, but the sudden death of my mum and since then, my dad has been playing both the role of a father and a mother which has been commendable. Though I missed my mum so much, but, I have been able to survive and being what I am through the help of God and what's been instill in me back then.
Like I said earlier, it's not the presence of both parents that matters in the upbringing of a child, but what's instilled in the mind and the brain of that child, seriously, the last time I went to my dad and during our discussion, he said, he's happy because of what i and my younger brother have become, he said his mind is always at rest because of us. And when he has said that, I told him that, it's because of what they have instilled in us. Like I used to tell people that, I'm one of those that have the freedom and chance of being a bad child and this is because, I have been living without both parents since when I was in JSS 3, but one thing i realized is that, the morals that has been instilled in me has always being my guide and guard even without the presence of my parent.
Let's think of it,, even those children that lost their mother at delivery and still living well and making impact, I have a guy that lost both his parent at a tender age, the guy though felt it, but didn't take that as an excuse and funny enough, those people that used to promise to take care of the children left behind were unable to take care of the guy and his siblings, now, all of them are living well without the presence of their parent. One thing I know is that there's no excuse for failure and that the presence or absence of any of the parent should not determine ones purpose in life.
This is my entry to the week 153, Edition 01 of the weekly Featured contest in the Hive Learners community.
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