We all have our reasons why we give out to people, and I do that a lot not minding who the person is to me most times, but yet I try that when I give I do it at my convenience and not when it would choke me. Giving beyond my convenience depends on the relationship I have with the person and how much trust I have developed for the person.
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I got inspired to write on this topic because I recently had a conversation on how I prefer to give to people compared to how a friend wanted to give me something. I know it is complicated right? let me make you understand the scenario better.
The thing is most people they like to give in public to make people see them giving and have the thoughts of the person being good while the truth is they do not really care about the person they are giving to but what other people think about them, and I feel that is shit.
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With my discussions with my friends on a group chat, I made mention: I prefer giving out something without anyone knowing I did it, unless I have a reason to? My friends know me well, if they ask me for support and I have it, I would give them and that transaction remains between us. It is absurd giving out to someone and start making it an alarm you did this for a person.
Helping someone is a personal decision and you do not need to tell everyone you did this for someone to make them see you for a particular thing. It is quite annoying even for me that is why I don't do it for others. We should all know that; We should help someone because we want to help the person not because we want other people to know we helped a person. If I help someone, it is the person's decision to tell other people what I did and I don't care if they do that or not so far I wanted to help you.
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Something happened recently which I didn't like, I was trying to raise money to buy something and I asked for $4 donation from people close by. It is something I asked in their private chats to donate. Imagine a friend going to a group chat to tell me to send him my account number so he can transfer money to me. First, I was surprised because the discussion was not on the chat, and second why do this? Definitely wanted people to know he is sending me money. I had no choice than to reply him; Don't worry bro, If you really wanted to help me out, then you have message me in my direct message.
I got funny responses from friends in the group saying someone wants to send me money and I am trying to teach courtesy. @obaro mentioned in the group, poor man no dey mind 😅 meaning poor man do not mind anyhow he is given something whether with good or bad manners.
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The point in this post is, when you want to help someone don't do it because you want others to know you helped the person, don't do it because you want to make yourself feel that you are better than the person, don't do it if you would keep dragging the fact that you helped the person. Just do it for wanting to genuinely be of help to the person and forget it ever happened.
And when you want to help someone most especially in matter relating money, please don't do pass your limit or convenience. Best you do something that would not keep you in regret.
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Starstrings01 AKA Giftedhands is a Hive lover, a Nigeria musician (Guitarist) and also a student who studies Mechatronics Engineering in the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta.
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