Life is complicated ! And nonone ever predict the things that could make life smoother. But that is the fun of spending every moment and live as it comes.
When life gives you lemons, make lemonade
As I said this, sometime the situation gets out of our control and we certainly find ourself completelly helpless. Just for an example, recently while travelling I noticed many people were in desperate and helpless situation because of a delayed train. With no control over such situation, the people find themselves in middle of nowhere except they left only to wait and wait and wait longer. While I utilize the time in snapping different people faces and their mood. The helplessness on each of the passenger face was clearly visible.
(my own editted image)
What is Helplesness?
Before I share my various personal experjnce on this topic, it is better to understand the basic meaning of it. Helplessness is the kind of situation or an extreme point in life where a person feels completelly handicapped and assume that there is nothing that anyone can do to improve the situation. Referring to the above example, there were so many passengers on the station but none have control over the train or the railway to run on time.
Situation I have been to :
There were many instances in my life where I completelly feel helplessness. The latest of them was my recent travel to a beach.
While enjoying, playing and diving on the sea waves, I noticed a floating body behind me. At first I assumed it to be kind of stunt, but it did not take much time to realize that the body was not responding at all neither to the big sea waves that stuck them one after the another nor by themselves. I shouted for help in middle of water and swim towards it. Few other person comes to my rescue and pulled the body towards the beach. It was of a boy around 27 years of age. I wanted to save the boy somehow. He was too young to be dead like that. I pumped his chest shouted loudly to call an ambulance or beach security teams. I was desperate to save that guy. I find myself in a situation where I can not do much for that soul. It was my first such encounter seeing a person dying. After 5-10 minutes of desperateness among the mute spectators the security teams arrived and declared him a dead. It was quite a chilling moment and various differrnt thoughts run over my mind.
I had similar feeling when seeing my Dad dying in front of my eyes in fact in my hand. It was an uncontrollable situation seeing the dearest of all leaving us like that. Mere imaging the situation send chill down my spine. He took his last breath while I was trying to make him lay on bed. The reaction at the last moment was unforgettable. I never been to such situation before. There were no around to tell me he was dying. Nothing could defines helplessness in more cruel way. I was helpless unable to do anything and in a moment of seconds he left us alone. What else could be more painful.
After suffering the pain, I never wish anyone to be in this situation. But it made me bit stronger and show the real truth of life. Nothing last long
Overcoming Helplessness
It is not easy to get over such unexpected event in life. It leave a deep impact and make people more stronger with time. It is not such that the situation will remain forever. Helplessness is a moment of time or sometime a time period, but it never last long. Staying positive, holding your patience and keeping calm are some of the way to get over the situation of helplessness. Hold on with the situation and never let it get out of the control.
There are many other situation but getting par with them over the time, now they appears to be nowhere in my life book. We may be helpless, but we can never be down and dusted.