Even though most of those goals are continuation of the items I didn’t tick off my list in the previous year, I was so excited to finally be starting a new year, exploring new ways to make sure my dreams were achieved.
However, of the many thoughts, and goal-settings, I never had any thought of the things I did last year that I wanted to stop doing in 2025. I mean, I was too excited to be able to think that I needed to write or note those things. Sometimes, we miss out on asking important questions that could be a hindrance to some of the things we intend to achieve. Maybe, temporarily wearing the black cap.
Well, thanks to the Hive Learners community for helping me ask the important questions. Even though I have the thought, I never deemed it important to pay attention to. However, now, I am going to write out the things I will stop doing in this new year.
To start with, I need to stop carrying people’s emotional baggage more than the owners. I am a problem-solver and always solution-oriented, however, most times, I’ve realized that the people that own the challenges sometimes, leave the problems to me to find solutions while they move on to do some other things that are important to them, and being the kind of person that I am, I won’t stop or do other things until I am certain that the problem is solved, except maybe I’ll be paid for my service.
That, I’ve realized has been an important time waster for me. Why should I be more concerned for other people than they are for themselves? So, in this new year, I have decided to leave people’s problems as long as they leave it and try to find solutions with the ones that are crazy about finding solutions too.
I cherish relationships a lot, be it family, friends, or even love, and I believe that one of those things that makes a relationship grow is sacrifice.
This year, I have decided to not move an inch for the people that I know won’t move mountains for me. I can go to any length to make sure my people are okay, but it will be more interesting and encouraging, if the people I go all-out for return the favour.
One thing I’ve realized is the fact that people know what they are doing and will use the next available person for use. So, I’ve decided to stop getting used by the people that see me as nothing but an emotional backup for their gains.
In the past year, I tried to mind my peace as much as possible. I went on a blocking spree on the people that weren’t even helping my situation at all, and this year, I intend to do more.
Asking me questions that will trigger an anxiety in me, putting myself in situations that could trigger a reaction from past trauma, or disrespecting me in a way I’ll never do to you are the situations I’ve decided to remove myself from this new year. So, help me God.
Thanks for reading through.
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