Hello friends ❤️. Happy start to this new week with lots of wishes for good healthy and wellness..
This first prompt of this week from our dear community #hiveleaners “Am I Adopted?” is one that is so emotional 😭, thinking 💭 it over as children 👦 are always so attached to parents while growing up.
The bonds between parents and their children are always an un- breakable one especially in a home where parents work so hard to give the best to their wards which is why most times children are so much attached to their parents because of the way they either care for them or how the children believed that no one can give them the kind of love ❤️ they get from their parents.
And then with all the love and care am getting from my said parents as am growing suddenly learns I was adopted? And my other siblings being my said parents children? No! The news in the first instance will throw me off guard, leaving me with so many questions of how did it all happen. Then secondary will put me into an uncontrollable emotions of why did my now parents kept this secrete from me for a long time even with all the bonds we share. The pain and emotions involved in this kinds of situations are not going to be an easy one because the child at this time will be confused with so many questions running through his or her mind
Feeling Betrayed?
No. I will not feel betrayed because as a child who is growing up in a home where I never felt anything different from other of my siblings in care and love ❤️, my said parents might have reasoned I need to grow up to an age of understanding before they let me know of this hidden information. So the question here is not going to be that my parents betrayed me for keeping this secret from me till now, rather I will see it as a way of trying to protect me from trauma I might have faced if this secret was revealed earlier than now.
Knowing The Truth:
At this point of knowing that am not a biological child of my present parents and family, my emotions of tears 😭 will be centered on my adopted parents telling me the truth of who I am, who are my parents and how was I adopted by them. The truth is always hurting but this is the only thing that will definitely make me know where am coming from and why I ended up being adopted. And making the truth available to the child will determine the next step the child will want to take especially if his or her parents are still alive.
Forgiveness?
Yes! I will definitely have nothing against my parents who brought me up with so much care and love since they never mistreated me in any way that would have showed me or made me feel I was not their child. This here is the most important question because as an adopted child I was loved equally like their other biological children. What could be more?
Instead I will be wanting to know if I will be forgiving my real biological parents by the time I learn the truth of what happened that lead to my adoption. If they are alive or dead because parents love are never comparable. But circumstances in life sometimes is unquestionably challenging 😰.
How It Could Have Been Handled?
How else would parents have wanted to handle issues of this kind without hurting the child involved? Keeping adoption secret to a child for a long time is because of the child’s mental health or wellbeing since parents involved are being cautious as not to hurt the child. Maybe also wanting the child to grow to a reasonable age of understanding as this can also enable the child make some decisions of some way forward which might not have been possible at the earliest age while still growing.
In conclusion, times are also creating awareness on issues and situations of this nature through the movies 🎥 many are watching which have made so many people to be able to accept things as they come, making decisions of how to move on in life because of circumstances of all kinds that have kept so many families apart. And in most cases children ends up being the victims. This is why we should know the right decisions to make and take as parents.
This is my entry to the #hivelearners Featured Content Of Week 135 - Edition 01 Tagged “Am I Adopted?”.
Images are mine.
