Some men have to understand that we are no more in the era of a child will look for his father when they grown up when they failed to train their children but rather leave them for their mother to train them alone. We have gone far beyond that. We are no more in that generation. The children of this generation have grown far beyond that. As far as their mother can train them and sponsor them for their education, even if the child grows up, the child will not look for the father. That is why in this generation, men should be hundred percent active in the life of their children.
There are some fathers that abandon their children for their mothers, and the mothers take up the responsibility, expecting the child to look for them when they grow up. I've seen so many cases like that. There's this man who leaves the mother of his children and also leaves the children for their mother, only checking on them occasionally. When the child grows up and graduates, he now comes back and wants to start taking up the responsibility when the children don't even need them anymore.
There's also this popular case that happened recently, where a Nigerian popular gospel artist held a wedding for her daughter, and the biological father was absent because he wasn't active in the child's life from young. But when the child grew up, he wanted to take up the father position on the wedding day, only to be disappointed. The mother's husband was the one who sat in the father's position on the wedding day, which got everyone talking that the gospel artist should have forgiven the father, this and that.
Some men don't know that being a sperm donor only doesn't make you a father. Taking up the responsibility of your child makes you a father. There's this brother I know who is married to his fourth wife and has four children with different mothers. He sends them out after two to three years of marriage without taking any responsibility for those children, expecting them to call him father or regard him as one when they grow up.
This generation has changed, and later some people will struggle to understand why their children don't acknowledge them as fathers despite their absence. And some people will still blame the mother and say the mother is the one turning the child against their father. People need to know that children have understood everything; they know who is sponsoring them and who is not.
Personally, I recall my school days, where my room was the hub of discussions with friends. Our mothers were the ones sponsoring us, because we discussed family issues as well and it wasn't uncommon for mothers to bear the bulk of responsibilities. Only that those mother don't come on social media to come and say they are the one doing it.Unfortunately, some fathers prioritize other things over their children's needs, like spending on women and drinks instead of supporting their families. When the children grow up, these fathers expect them to share financial responsibilities with their mothers.
I've also seen cases like my father's cousin, who spends his salary on drinking, leaving his wife to struggle to pay school fees for their three university students. It's clear that some people struggle with priorities.
The involvement of fathers in their children's lives is crucial for their development, well-being, and future success. Fathers who are actively engaged with their children provide emotional support, guidance, and stability. They serve as role models, influencing their children's values, behaviors, and attitudes. By prioritizing father involvement, families can reap numerous benefits, leading to healthier, happier, and more successful children. It's time for men to step up and take responsibility for their children, rather than expecting others to do it for them.