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The ability to refuse outright to give something to a friend, family or acquaintance is alarming. There are situations that warrant such behavior but others do it out of share greed or stinginess.
A greedy person can be referred to as one who’s selfish and a stingy person is one who has but is unwilling to give out. They can be quite confusing but in a way they relate. A greedy person can become stingy.
I believe we’ve all had our fair share of interacting with greedy and stingy people. We the unlucky ones have had experiences with one individual who’s both stingy and greedy.
I have had my share of meeting such people. I haven’t met a lot of stingy, greedy or both but I have had my experience. The recent and intense has got to be this friend of mine in the university.
He completed last year but he’s stories will forever remain legendary. I manage to find myself in the same hostel as this guy when I gained admission to pursue my degree. At the time, I was in level 100 and he was in 200. He has completed his degree now and I am in my final year.
So early days as a fresher, I was not interacting a lot and was very quiet. I mean I still am quiet but you get my point😅. I did not hang around the hostel much and it was always from hostel to class to library or to a friend’s place at the SSNIT hostel. Because of this I hadn’t noticed how stingy this guy was.
Covid came and so we still did not interact a lot. When school finally resumed for Dave to face lectures, I started to be more present in the hostel and that was when I started to noticed his behavior.
This friend of mine started to ask me for petty stuff and for me I saw nothing wrong with me. I was cool giving out to him as it didn’t bother me and I thought I was being helpful.
So one day this guy came to me and said he was chatting with his girl and her data got finished so if I had I should please send to her and he’ll pay me back in the morning. Unfortunately for him, the network didn’t allow me and he walked away.
I can’t quite recall what happened and we were speaking about this friend. I then narrated my this to my other friends and they laughed hard. They said I was lucky and got saved by the network because that’s how he is and he wouldn’t have paid. I hear other stories of how he behaves and I was shocked.
You wouldn’t believe this guy can go have breakfast at a different hostel. He’d buy bread and eggs, go fry at another hostel and eat well while his roommates haven’t eaten😂. For real I was shocked and it was funny. You wouldn’t believe this guy when it approaches the end of the semester, he’ll stop wearing his clothes, move to another hostel and kind of be wearing their clothes.
This stinginess soon turned to greed because he was so sick sometime ago and when his roommates opened his wallet they saw a lot of money. He said he didn’t have money and this also came at a time when their food stuff had finished and they needed to buy more. He said he had no money and so they had to put the buying on hold.
There are a lot of other encounters I could narrate but I believe this paints the picture. When you do things like these and people get fed up with you, you wouldn’t even get help when you’re seriously in need of something.
It came to a time when he even asks me for something I immediately think about him trying to use me and so I just say I don’t have it. Other times I just don’t mind and I do what I can. But then we should try to avoid stinginess and greed cos they in the long run, hurt us more.
Thank you.