Firstly, I know that I am a playful person, most times I don't really care about a lot of things, I just do things to be happy and most times, there are no strings attached...
I have done things to people with a pure heart, knowing that from my side, it was just a joke, but from the receivers side, the reactions are not always pleasing or palatable...
I can remember sometimes last year, towards the ending of the year, I joined a photography class, I had fun, networked and met a lot of new like-minded people as me, we always tried me make ourselves happy, never to be caught unhappy (lol).
Along the line, there was one afternoon after we finished from lectures and we were about going home in pairs, we were 5 in total as of that day, 4 boys one girl.
We were talking and gisting and making fun of the only girl in out midst, but not to make it get to her, you know what I'm talking about, just keep the conversation going interesting...
Then something happened, we get to see that our words were obviously and literally getting to her, so one of the guys just whispered to me saying "Omo guy, this girl don dey vex oo, we better tell her sorry now before she gets all angry and pour it all out on us... but as a playful guy that I am, i told him okay and went to meet her to jokingly forget all what we are saying, but she was not listening, she tried to play dumb, but I thought she was just acting it all up, so I decided to do something different, so I knelt down before her on the main road (more like the style men uses when they are about to propose, you grab right?) and was about to apologise, and so with a smiling face i held het hand but she wasn't finding it so funny as I was with the other guys, but because she was smiling, i thought she was just playing along, unfortunately, she told me to stop, but with the way things were looking, to me I say that she wasn't happy with it, she was already giving a fake smile asking me to stop, but in my own church playful mind, I said if I had let her go, we might just not settle it. And as of that time, the other guys had already taken pictures of us together.
And so because I did not let go of her, forcefully pulled her hands and so I let her go and then she slapped me, at this time I didn't know she was already angry, and so I thought the slap was her playing along, but no, she left without saying a goodbye, I tried calling her to apologize, but she didn't answer, and then she ignores me for a while after I begged the hell out of me, but still she didn't reply me, so I decided to forget about her and i later cleared my mind and talked to her the way she didn't like.
Later she replied me telling me she didn't want to have any affair, she just wanted us to be friends and nothing more, and that was Where i got angry, and told her I was only playing and was never planing on having nothing behind us being friends, so I cut off from her until she went to report to our tutor, which he called me and made me settle it in front of the whole class, apologising for what I didn't mean.
It was painful for me because I never had it in mind that it would go that far, but it did, so it made me to almost hate her; but like o said, I later had to Clare things with her mad made everything between us official, no text after classes, we say hi only when wr cross each other's path and so on...
But right now we have settled things, and i hope not to have such experience again.
Sometimes, we just plan to be mutual, but the other person we are trying to get across to doesn't understand our motive, so they fuck up sometimes, while others play along...
Thank you all for your time, it was my pleasure sharing...
PS: this post is dedicates to the hivelearners
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