So first of all, I want to use this opportunity to thank God and also appriciate my parents for the kind of siblings I have, I mean, you know that kind of feeling where you feel like your family has got your back? That feeling that you most make mama and papa proud, and my siblings are ready to make that happen for me; In fact, we heard from out parent that the outside were even asking that what is the secret to your children's joy? That they have never seen us fighting, (even tho they do not know how the inside used to be 😅) they are really loving, the are kind, they are everything a person could ask of, I really do appreciate the everything you have made me today, I sincerely appreciate. (na big money remain).
To be honest, as much as I do appreciate the kind of siblings I have, there are times where one o us will mess up so bad that it can tarnish the family's name, and so that feeling at that moment will not be something that will be palatable, something that you can convey, something that you know that can always accommodate, cause the more you accommodate it, the more problems it will cause for you, and not just you, but the chances of the problem created not affecting the whole family and family name is just so minimal.
There is a sibling of mine that a lot of people are expecting a lot from him, not just his nuclear family, but also the extended families, and so they took their time to train you, they took their money to sponsor you, they took their energy to put you through in a lo of things, and then they are expecting you to grow up, thy are expecting you to act fast, they are expecting you to stand up to responsibilities, they expect you to have an in-depth knowledge and understanding of what taking care of your own family looks like, so that when you are able to stand on your own, you will know how to tell the story, you will know how to take care of yourself and also your siblings and also your parent and also anyone that you can...
After all the hard work, after all the energy, after all the investment, after all the money, after all the times, it was almost counted as a lost, cause the sibling started to misbehave, started to go astray from what he was supposed to do to what he did, (he didn't smoke, he didn't drink, he didn't spend uselessly on women, but still messed up in some ways...) And so the way he messed up changes the way his helpers were supposed to help him, so they stopped and because of the way he messed up, it affected the whole family, when you ask for help, they make you feel like you are a bad person, they make you feel like you are evil, because they felt that they have invested a lot on your sibling and so they do not want you too to waste their time and money...
So this feeling makes me want to discard that sibling sometimes, but what can I do? He is a sibling, I believe that more love can be shown and then be better...
PS: this post is dedicated to the Hivelearners Weekly Featured contest Week 69 edition 01