Zdravo Hiveri-i😊
Često sam ulazila u odnose sa veoma iskompleksiranim ljudima, toksičnim ili osobama koji ni sami sebe ne vole❌️.
Skoro sam razmišljala o tome zašto ljudi kada uđu u neki odnos, zašto imaju potrebu da tu osobu prevare sa nekom drugom osobom?🤢
Mislim, moje razmišljanje je nekome i čudno, ali ja i dalje tražim odgovor, zašto ulaziti u bilo koji odnos ako ne želiš da budeš barem neko vreme tu?
Pokušavala sam dopreti do muškog mozga malo🧠, iz razloga jer u svakom odnosu u kojem sam bila, iz svakog sam izašla jer sam bila prevarena ili je bilo isuviše toksično🧪.
Hi Hivers😊
I often got into relationships with very complex people, toxic people or people who don't even love themselves❌️.
I almost thought about why when people get into a relationship, why do they feel the need to cheat on that person with another person?🤢
I mean, my thinking is strange to some, but I'm still looking for an answer, why get into any relationship if you don't want to be there for at least a while?
I tried to reach the male brain a little🧠, because in every relationship I was in, I got out of every one because I was cheated on or it was too toxic.🧪
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Uglavnom, ja sam osoba koja se mnogo brzo vezuje, a prema meni čim je neko dobar, poklanja mi pažnju i budem neko vreme centar njegovog sveta, mene to kupi, tako je kod svih žena🙄. Stvar je u tome što mene kad to kupi, partner se ugasi, postaje toksičan i ne toliko dobar kao na početku🧐. Stvar je u tome što se partner/partnerka uvek pokaže prvih par meseci sjajno samo da bi osvojila tu osobu, a drugi partner je tek tada počeo da se greje.🤯
Basically, I'm a person who gets attached very quickly, and as soon as someone is nice to me, he pays attention to me and I'm the center of his world for a while, he buys me, it's like that with all women🙄. The thing is that when I buy it, my partner shuts down, becomes toxic and not as good as in the beginning🧐. The thing is that the partner always shows up great for the first couple of months just to win that person over, and the other partner only started warming up then.🤯
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Uglavnom sam svaku vezu raskinula jer sam bila prevarena🫥. Pisaću o tom jednom odnosu koji je bio jako nezdrav, možda neka devojka ili momak, pročita ovaj post pomogne ako je u nekoj lošoj i nezdravoj vezi.🫡
Bila sam sa jednim momkom koji je od mene stariji dve godine. Nije bio baš na glasu, voleo je mnogo da eksperimentise svakakvim stvarima, što nemam ništa protiv toga, ali sam imala protiv toga što se zadržavao na istim. Iskreno, nije me bilo briga kakav je i šta radi jer sam želela da ga promenim, da ostavi loše stvari za sobom i da vodi zdrav život, i iskrena da budem nekako sam i pomogla i išao je ka boljem i ako moji naravno njega nisu volela 1% baš iz razloga jer na tom lošem glasu.😶🌫️
Ali želela sam da pokažem ljudima da on ima i dobru dušu, položio je za auto i ako je prethodno pao par puta, ali sam bila njegova najveća podrška pa je položio🚗. Kada se zapošljavao takođe sam mu bila ogromna podrška i stvarno je išao ka boljem. On kao čovek ima dobru dušu, odličan je prijatelj, ali kako su meseci odmicali meni se ustvari pokazala prava slika njega, ustvari kakav je u vezi.😉
Mostly I broke up every relationship because I was cheated on🫥. I will write about that one relationship that was very unhealthy, maybe a girl or a guy will read this post and it will help if he is in a bad and unhealthy relationship.🫡
I was with a guy who is two years older than me. He wasn't very famous, he liked to experiment a lot with all kinds of things, which I have nothing against, but I had against the fact that he stuck to the same. Honestly, I didn't care what he was like and what he was doing because I wanted him to change, to leave bad things behind and lead a healthy life, and to be honest, I somehow helped him and he was going for the better, even if my family didn't love him, of course 1% precisely because of that bad reputation.😶🌫️
But I wanted to show people that he also has a good soul, he applied for the car even if he failed a couple of times before, but I was his biggest supporter so he passed🚗. When he got a job, I was also a huge support for him and he really got better. As a man, he has a good soul, he is a great friend, but as the months went by, the real picture of him, in fact, what he is like in a relationship, was revealed to me.😉
Imao je kompleks, u smislu znao je da od njega ima lepših momaka, zgodnijih, privlačnijih i boljih. I ako on tada nije bio svestan da ja samo njega vidim i da sam isključivo zaljubljena samo u njega🤦🏻♀️. Zbog svoje nesigurnosti u sebe mnogo se plašio da ne bude prevaren, pa je samim tim njemu bilo užasno ako ja izađem u grad sa drugaricama ili ako ne daj Bože obučem nešto poput malo otvorenije majice ili ako obučem haljinu. Devojke verovatno znaju o čemu sada pišem jer su sigurno prošle ovu situaciju barem jednom.🤷🏻♀️
Nisam želela da utiče na mene, da mi brani šta ću kad obući ili kad ću ja izaći u grad sa drugaricama.🧏🏻♀️
He had a complex, in the sense that he knew that there were better-looking guys than him, handsomer, more attractive and better. And if he wasn't aware at the time that I only saw him and that I was only in love with him.🤦🏻♀️ Because of his self-doubt, he was very afraid of being cheated on, so it was terrible for him if I went out on the town with my friends or if, God forbid, I wore something like a slightly more revealing shirt or if I wore a dress. Girls probably know what I'm writing about now because they must have been through this situation at least once.🤷🏻♀️
I didn't want him to influence me, to tell me what to wear or when to go out with my friends.🧏🏻♀️
U ovoj vezi sam bila 9 meseci, sve dok nisam s vremena na vreme dobijala informacije kako se on kreće u ženskom društvu i kako se dopisuje sa puno devojaka💬. Iskreno, nisam tip osobe koja će nekog proveravati, niti telefon niti osobu, ili zato što se plašim istine, tačnije plašila istine, da ne bih izgubila osobu i bila povređena, ili zato što ne bih volela da neko bez mog znanja proverava moj telefon, pre sam za to da me pita. Tako da sam ja otovreno pitala ali je uvek negirao, i govorio kako su ustvari drugi svi ljubomorni na našu vezu i da žele samo da raskinemo. Želela sam da mu verujem, ali kao da mi nije nešto dalo mira, poljuljalo mi je osećanja, razmišljanje i sve što se tiče naše veze.👀 Par puta sam mahinalno videla na telefonu da mu stižu poruke od nepoznatih devojaka ali nekako sam želela da verujem da su mu to samo drugarice sa kojim nisam upoznata.😫
Jedne noći🌌, posle posla otišao je da preuzme svoj novi telefon📱 i došao je kod mene da prespava😴, došao je sa novim i sa starim telefonom i hteo je da mu pomognem oko prebacivanja slika i kako to već ide, ali ubrzo se predomislio i rekao kako nece on mene da zamara već će on to sa drugarom da sredi🤔. Prethodnu noć sam ja sedela na svom prozoru od sobe i obratila sam se Bogu, pričala sam mu gledajući u nebo i molila ga da mi uputi neki znak, dobar znak da ostavim dečka jer vidim da se nešto dešava, nešto loše😪. Dečko je prespavao kod mene, i sledeće jutro🌄 je morao da ide do kuće da se spremi za posao i da uzme stvari koje mu trebaju. On je otišao kući i poneo je samo novi telefon u kom nema još ništa prebačeno iz starog telefona. I u sebi sam govorila da ako ovo nije znak ništa nije, morala sam da znam na čemu sam i mozak me je vukao ka njegovom telefonu📱.
I was in this relationship for 9 months, until I received information from time to time about how he moves in the company of women and how he corresponds with a lot of girls.💬Honestly, I'm not the type of person who will check someone, neither the phone nor the person, either because I'm afraid of the truth, or rather afraid of the truth, so that I don't lose the person and get hurt, or because I wouldn't like someone checking my phone without my knowledge, I'm more in favor of him asking me. So I openly asked, but he always denied, and said that in fact the others are all jealous of our relationship and that they just want us to break up. I wanted to believe him, but as if something didn't give me peace, it shook my feelings, thinking and everything about our relationship.👀 A couple of times I automatically saw on phone that he was receiving messages from unknown girls, but somehow I wanted to believe that they were just his friends with whom I am not familiar😫.
One night🌌, after work, he went to collect his new phone📱 and came to my place to sleep😴, he came with the new phone and with the old phone and wanted me to help him transfer the pictures and how it was going, but soon he changed his mind and said how he won't bother me, he will sort it out with his friend🤔. The night before, I was sitting at the window of my room and I turned to God, I talked to him looking at the sky and begged him to give me some sign, a good sign to leave my boyfriend because I see that something is happening, something bad😪. The boy slept over at my place, and the next morning🌄 he had to go home to get ready for work and get the things he needed. He went home and brought only a new phone with nothing transferred from the old phone. And I said to myself that if this is not a sign, nothing is, I had to know what I was doing and my brain was pulling me towards his phone📱.
Za 10 meseci naše veze ja nisam znala šifru njegovog telefona, ali pamćenje me je dobro služilo🤩 i setila sam se redosleda kada je par puta tapkao ispred mene da bi ušao u YouTube. Redosledom sam tapkala i uspela sam da ga otkljucam.😏
Nisam znala šta da radim, da li da uđem u galeriju, u poruke💬, u WhatsApp, u instagram, ali kao, sve me je vuklo ka galeriji i ako nema smisla. Ušla sam u galeriju kao nešto najbezbolnije, ali ustvari je to bilo najbolnije. Imao je poseban album slika te jedne devojke sa kojom me je prevario(barem da je jedna) i to su bile sve privatne slike što je ona njemu slala samo za njega. Onda sam ušla u poruke od njega i nje i videla sam par poruka gde jasno daje do znanja da su u nekoj vezi.🤯
Stigao mi je sms da on dolazi pre posla do mene da uzme svoj telefon stari, da ga je zaboravio negde u mojoj sobi, na šta sam ja samo napisala "važi"
Ja sam nastavila da čitam poruke od ostalih devojaka i došla do zaključka da me je prevario sa 5,6 devojaka. A ko zna koliko ih je bilo još a da nisam uspela da saznam.😅
Kada je došao po telefon, shvatio je u čemu se radi, negirao je sve, pričao kako me voli, kako ne zna kako se sve to desilo, da mu je žao, da moramo da pričamo, ali sam ga samo izbacila iz kuće.😬
In the 10 months of our relationship, I didn't know his phone code, but my memory served me well🤩 and I remembered the sequence when he tapped a couple of times in front of me to enter YouTube. I tapped in sequence and managed to unlock it.😏
I didn't know what to do, whether to go to the gallery, to messages💬, to WhatsApp, to Instagram, but like, everything was pulling me towards the gallery even if it didn't make sense. I entered the gallery as if it was the most painless thing, but in fact it was the most painful. He had a special album of pictures of that one girl he cheated on me with (at least if she was one) and those were all private pictures that she sent him just for him. Then I went into the messages from him and her and I saw a couple of messages where he makes it clear that they are in a relationship.🤯
I received an SMS saying that he was coming to my place before work to get his old phone, that he had left it somewhere in my room, to which I just wrote "okay".
I continued to read messages from other girls and came to the conclusion that he cheated on me with 5.6 girls. And who knows how many more there were that I didn't manage to find out.😅
When he came to pick up the phone, he understood what was going on, he denied everything, said that he loved me, that he didn't know how it all happened, that he was sorry, that we needed to talk, but I just threw him out of the house.😬
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Dugo sam razmišljala o njemu posle raskida, i sa poslednjom devojkom sa kojom me je prevario, saznala sam da je i nju prevario, i čak dok je bio sa njom pokušao je da mi piše i da uđe u kontakt sa mnom😂, ali naravno da mu nisam dala šansu ni da mi priđe. On više nije sa tom devojkom nego je sa devojkom koja živi u inostranstvu, a on i dalje pokušava da dođe do mene i do mog kontakta ali koliko sam dobila informaciju, sadašnja devojka mu je zabranila pa je on blokirao sve devojke koje ima na društvenim mrežama🤭. Moj broj je obrisao, ali kada se njegova devojka vratila za inostranstvo, on je našao moj broj i čekao momenat kada će mi opet pisati, pa sam ja uzela i blokirala njegov broj.🤪
I thought about him for a long time after the breakup, and with the last girl he cheated on, I found out that he cheated on her too, and even while he was with her he tried to write to me and get in touch with me😂, but of course he I didn't even give him a chance to approach me. He is no longer with that girl, he is with a girl who lives abroad, and he is still trying to reach me and my contact, but as far as I got the information, his current girlfriend has banned him, so he has blocked all the girls he has on social networks🤭. He deleted my number, but when his girlfriend returned from abroad, he found my number and waited for the moment when he would write to me again, so I took and blocked his number.🤪
Do kog zaključka sam ja ustvari došla? Zašto se on bojao da ne bude prevaren? Zato što je on varao, znao je kako ustvari prevara boli i povređuje ego.
Zašto mu je smetalo moje oblačenje? Zato što je on prvi prilazio atraktivnim devojkama pa je verovatno mislio da će tako i meni.🧏🏻♀️
On jeste dobar čovek, nije bio nikada škrt i cicija, human je, svima želi da pomogne, želi da menja loše navike, želi da udovolji, ali ne ume da voli i da bude veran.🥲
Suština je da, devojke, momci, kada imate takav vid veze, znate šta se uglavnom dešava, mada i ne mora da znači, ali mislim da je ovo čest slučaj.🤔
Upoznajte pre nego što uđete u nešto, nikako da se zaleće u neku vezu. Ne budite glupi kao ja😆, odatle kada se izađe mnogo se pati posle a to nikome ne treba. Mislim da je ovo itekako i momcima i devojkama mnogo korisno ako su itekako u lošem odnosu.🥹
What conclusion did I actually come to? Why was he afraid of being deceived? Because he cheated, he knew how cheating actually hurts and hurts the ego.
Why did he mind my dressing? Because he was the first to approach attractive girls, so he probably thought he would do the same to me.🧏🏻♀️
He is a good man, he has never been stingy and stingy, he is humane, he wants to help everyone, he wants to change bad habits, he wants to please, but he does not know how to love and be faithful.🥲
The bottom line is that, girls, guys, when you have that kind of relationship, you know what's usually going on, although it doesn't necessarily mean, but I think this is often the case.🤔
Get to know each other before you get into something, never get stuck in a relationship. Don't be stupid like me😆, when you get out of there you suffer a lot afterwards and nobody needs that. I think this is very useful for both guys and girls if they are in a really bad relationship.🥹
Pozdrav od vaše Rebeke😗
Greeting from your Rebecca😗