What is Love?
I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.
~― Marilyn Monroe
In answering what it really means, I believe all kinds of thinkers are yet to agree on what it really means. Some are very cynical and doubt of its actual existence rationalizing it to chemical reactions in the brain. Others choose to be philosophical, and poetic about the definition of it all. But the general consensus is, it is a uncontrollable set of emotions and behaviors generally characterized by commitment, intimacy and closeness.
There are some researchers who argue love is rather a cultural phenomenon while others posit that it is biological, and despite being hugely studied and plaguing the minds of many since time immemorial, we still have little understanding love.
Irrespective of what it really is, we all can agree that deep down no matter who we all, we all crave experiencing that set of emotions, and in actuality most of the things we do all revolve making us somewhat appealing to others for that chance of some day meeting with the person who happens to catalyze and speed up whatever the brain reaction is that happens.
And overnight it dawns on us that life without that person is unimaginable. The brain cannot stop thinking about them, all the plans now don't revolve one person but rather two.
I find LOVE very intriguing, although am not very sure I have let anyone that close to really seeing me that they would really love me, but despite that observing others at the time they are experiencing that feeling is just fascinating.
Who we fall in love with is totally out of one's control, and despite society trying to make it a norm that it is only acceptable when it happens between different genders, times have changed and cultures evolved to disrupt that traditional thinking, and now most but not all acknowledge that love doesn't necessarily care about the gender. That fact that it doesn't necessarily subscribe to gender adds up to the fact that Love still remains a mystery that we are yet to unravel.
But even with its mysterious nature, it is all we crave. We go to great lengths to try and find it, some being lucky and some not. The weird thing is in the contemporary societies there is a continuous increase in the rates of divorce. Leading to the question of what were the couples experiencing at first if at one point they can no longer tolerate life with another person. Of course it is not so black and white, but still one cannot help but wonder whether we have it all wrong...
Personally as I stated earlier on, I am very cynical and maybe my psychological well being isn't so healthy that I think I am not ready for it, or there is a fear of being too broken that no one will accept me for who I am. Sometimes it is really hard and I can't help but wish that things were otherwise, but I have learned to be patient with myself and not concentrate on how lonely it gets, but rather just acknowledge that it will get to pass and appreciate the progress irrespective of how insignificant at times it may seem.
But I look forward to that day that I can either agree or disagree with the definitions put forward by others regarding Love, and also get to cherish the benefits that come with having someone there and being there for them.
...see y'all in my next update!
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