Cómo lidiar con un diagnóstico en tu hijo (ESP/ENG)

I remember exactly the moment when the child neurologist who evaluated Cristian Josué, addressed me in a very cold and even sarcastic way, telling me that it was very likely that my son had a retardation problem, it was not at all pleasant and more for the indelicate way she expressed herself, precisely about the way we face the diagnoses is the theme chosen for this week in the #MomLife Week 41 || Daily Challenge, if you want to know more about the topics proposed for this week or the previous ones here I share the link with all the information, now I will share with you my experience and another very close one.

As I mentioned, in the previous paragraph and also last week my son's preschool age was quite busy in terms of visits to specialists as it was presumed hyperactivity, that involved tests and visits to several places, among them was required to the evolution and opinion of a child neurologist.

I do not remember through whom or how I arrived at the office of a specialist in Chuao, but I do remember that he is one of those doctors in pediatrics who do not seem to like children very much, he asked me a lot of questions about my son, specifically the ages or months in which he had managed to sit, crawl, walk, talk, among others. After that she told me in a very cold, unfriendly and even sarcastic way, it seemed that we disgusted her and she told me that Cristian had a delay, this without any other exam or test, she also gave me a receipt that I still have, Thank God, a friend of mine, upon learning of my anguish, recommended another child neurologist, who, with tests in hand and several consultations, indicated to me that my son had nothing more than the behavior of a normal child.

Now, I must confess that at the moment that doctor said those words to me, I felt that I was collapsing, that I had a huge challenge in my hands and that it would consume my life, both me and my son, maybe when you read this you will say "what a dramatic girl! Maybe it is true, but I think all mothers want to lead a normal life and that our children also have them and although there are conditions or accidents that can be overcome very well, like the one of Cristian Josué's nose fracture, thanks to a ball in the nose, there are very strong cases and I admire the mothers or fathers who have had to fight those battles.

For example, and I once commented in a publication related to the Autism Spectrum Disorder, as I saw very closely the reaction of a friend and co-worker and her husband when her son was diagnosed, she as a mother felt very sad and when she told me she cried, but the reaction of her husband, when she informed him of the diagnosis, was a terrible annoyance that led to an argument, because he simply did not accept it, She was affected for the first few days, I presume that she was trying to digest what was happening and her husband's denial was added to it, she, not having anyone to unburden herself to, told me, knowing that seeing the situation from the outside, she could be a little more objective, so I told her that in my opinion her husband was in denial, to give him time to digest the diagnosis.

Now, this family managed to move forward with their son who later had his diagnosis changed from Autism to Asperger's Syndrome, his mother, father, older brother and even the grandparents got involved, in the therapies, the proper feeding, and everything related to the welfare of the child in question, even a pet was included in the family thinking of him and the results today are wonderful.

In conclusion, I believe and I say I believe, since very little time or months I dealt with that first diagnosis given to me by that child neurologist, but it is something hard to accept, digest and face, but if we do not seek the help that our children need, who will? if you feel like crying, cry, scream, kick, but never give up is not an option when you have a child who needs you, your support, he alone will not seek the help he needs, so go ahead even with tears in your eyes, take one step at a time, but accept that this situation is a reality that can be very hard at the beginning, but it will be even harder if you do not give the right treatment and on time. So I leave, waiting to read your impressions in the comments box.