Parenting is not an easy job we know. But sometimes, we parents forget that our children are not just robots who obey commands. They are humans, with feelings, fears, and growing minds. And sometimes in our frustration or hurry, we may respond in ways that leave lasting emotional and sometimes even physical damage.
This is a picture of my son at three months, and he is presenting three years old he has thought me how to be patient. Even if sometimes I almost loos it.
It's been an amazing year and i am growing to be a better mother learn from others experience and implementing a good ideas.
A recent incident in my neighborhood left me both heartbroken and in deeply reflection.
** The Story That Changed Everything.**
A little boy,my neighbor’s son was playing on the veranda when another child joined him, playing with a rubber band and a pen cover. In what seemed like harmless fun, the child accidentally shot the pen cover, and it hit the boy in the eye.
Out of fear, the other child pleaded with him, gave him the rubber band to console him and begged him not to tell his mother. The little boy agreed.
But soon after, his eye became very red and painful. When his mother noticed, he finally confessed what had happened he was terrified but in too much pain to keep quiet.
Instead of comforting him or rushing him to the pharmacy, the mother responded with anger and began beating him.
Two days later, the boy’s eye was still very red and he was in severe pain, he couldn't see with that eyes clearly. They finally visited an eye specialist who delivered the newsthe eye’s retina was damaged. He had lost vision in that eye. The doctor prescribed medication and an eye drop to manage the pain and advised hourly care.
All I could think was: This could have been avoided.
My reflectionl
I am not saying this to judge — I say this as a call to all of us, especially parents: Can we do better?
- Can we be both friends and guardians to our children?
- Can we create a home where they feel safe to speak up, even when they’ve made a mistake?
- Can we control our tempers in moments of fear and instead choose love, patience, and care?
Children aren’t robots. They’re not meant to be perfect. They are still learning, still growing, and how we treat them now shapes how they see the world and themselves.
We need more patience. Let's learn to listen more than to punish and lecture. Guiding them without instilling fear.
Because one day, these children will grow up — and all they’ll remember is how we made them feel.