Hello beautiful mothers,how is the week going? Hopefully it's blissful.
Am here to share some of my experiences with you and i know motherhood is full of responsibilities.
Personally as a mom of three small kids i see myself running out of time to meet up responsibilities and that has been one of my major problem,the problem of not having enough time to meet up my daily responsibilities and at the end of the day i get to bed feeling unsatisfied.
For mothers with grown up kids,how beautifully and relieving it is at your end, hopefully am getting there someday.
Recently i had to accept what works for me and let go of the things that are beyond my strength while focusing on my strength.
As a mom the first steps i took was to
-Prioritize my time:
I had to understand and know my capacity, understanding my body and my strength based on time,and i was able to understand the best time to work with and what time goes well for me.
During self reflection,i realized that i am a night person,am good at night,i feel more energised at night and i hardly sleep early.
Instead of wasting away the time by just lying and doing nothing i decided to make the most out of it.
I do laundry when the kids are asleep,i cleaned up the house for the next day,I iron and do a lot i could and remaining some easy taska for the day and also with the intentions of complimenting myself with a good sleep during the day,when my kids are off to school.
For mothers working,my routine may not be favourable to you, maybe there's a better way yours can be adjusted to fit in.
The second step i took was to focus on what am good at:
As a mom i admired mothers who are great story tellers and at some point i tried to do it for my kids but I couldn't just flow,and my kids were not bothered, but for me,i just wanted to do it because others were doing it and it looks great.It was really difficult and boring for us as i tried.
I finally had to accept that am not good in story telling,but am a good dancer and my kids loves dancing with me especially if there's a nice music to dance to.
We would dance and dance till we got tired and then they would bath,eat and off to bed.they are some things they enjoy doing more than others,they like singing, jumping,and playing hide and seek.so i worked with the few things i knew they enjoyed and i channelled my energy into the things they love doing and it has been great fun.
I have come in terms with the facts that i may not be able to do all the house chores at once ,i know my capacity and am trying to break the pattern of doing too much, in as much as i am trying to give my best to my kids.
I no longer feel guilty for the things i can't do yet other mothers are best at it.
I know there are some things that am also good at.
My kids are quite small and to take care of the 3 of them is really stressful without a help but I have shaped my mindset to be excited during the process of taking care of them and to be more appreciative for the privilege God has given to me to be a mom.
sooner or later they will grow up and the stress will be less.
Thank you all for reading through.