Hello Motherhood Lovers, Greetings, I'm from Indonesia, I have three sons. My first child is he is hyperactive but very shy, so he finds it difficult to socialize with his peers, when he was in elementary school, when his teacher asked him to come forward like singing, he didn't want to. Of course I can't allow this, as a mother, of course we will do whatever is best for our children.
The first way I did was to give him therapy, after school, three times a week I take him to a psychologist to train his psychomotor. During the therapy,I accompanied my child, so in this therapy,apart from training him psychomotor skills, he also trained his cognitive skills, such as learning to read and count.
And most importantly teach him how to socialize with the surrounding environment, especially with his peers, how to talk to teachers and people who are older than him.
The second way is to include it in activities that he enjoys, because my son is hyperactive, I'm sure he likes dance, dance usually combines various movements to produce dance. One day, there was a celebration/festival in our city, so I asked the teacher to include my son in the festival.
The teacher composed a dance from the Dayak tribe and my son got the role of the lost Dayak child in the dance.
my son is taller than his friend
My son is hyperactive but very shy, finally likes to socialize with his peers,it turns out he really likes dancing.
my son is number two from the left with his missing teeth
photo with brother
photo with family
After the festival, it turns out that my son is very happy to participate in various activities at his school and he is not shy anymore.Even one day, his school held a fashion competition, he asked to be registered, of course I was very happy because the participants not only came from his school, but from other schools also participated in this competition.
my son's style in a fashion competition
The third step I took was to teach him how to control his emotions, because my son is very sensitive and gets angry easily.I started from the family environment, I taught him to care more about his younger siblings and the results were amazing, he really loves his younger siblings and wants to take care of his younger siblings and even wants to feed his younger siblings when they eat.
The fourth step that I do is to pay more attention and always communicate with him to practice his speaking skills.
So, hyperactive children in general really like to move freely and don't like being banned when they do something, so it is difficult for them to interact with their peers and their environment. If we don't deal with it immediately, these hyperactive children will experience more serious social problems, such as being too indifferent, unable to adapt, being selfish and other social problems.
These are the steps that I and my husband did so that my hyperactive and very shy child can socialize with his peers.
Love our children more than we love ourselves and one day our child who is a gift from God, will treat us when we are old like we treated him as a child