Have you ever woken up in the morning and asked yourself, "Do I still like myself?" There are days when you love yourself and days when you are insecure about others. I mean, there will come a point when you realize you no longer want to be like your current self because all you can see is the beauty of others. As a result, the beauty bestowed upon you and solely yours will perish. It dies because you are incapable of handling and caring for yourself.
Three (3) insecurities that I am fully mindful of
Insecurities about one's body
You might be surprised to learn that body shaming does not always begin with other people. Body shaming can sometimes begin with you. You are unable to accept your own flaws, scars, marks, and body type as being present in your body. When you look in the mirror, the person you see is not the one you want to be. You'll start making disparaging and hurtful remarks about your body. "You're not sexy enough!" "You're fat!" "You're dark!" The more you resist accepting yourself, the more difficult it will be to build your body.
Insecurities about one's intellect
You had no idea that I had intellectual insecurities among my peers. When you walk into a room full of aspiring writers, observe what kind of people they are, and reading their work will always leave you wondering if you can do it too. Although my friends and family have reminded me of my writing potential, there is a part of me that says I'm not good enough. I'm not very good at it. I'm not up to par with their abilities. It's the most dangerous insecurity I've dealt with because it's killing my own passion for writing rather than my insecurity.
Insecurities about one's career
I'm a graduating student, but I don't see myself working in my intended field of programming. More than that, I believe I am currently lacking in the skill set that I should have. It will get to the point where you are torn by your friends' and coworkers' insecurities because you see them perform better than you. You are concerned that your abilities are slipping. However, I learned that it is critical to look at the big picture rather than just one piece of it.
Each of us has a unique gift to offer, experiences to share, and testimonies that others can find inspiring. It makes no difference if you are not the best among your peers; what matters is how your best can affect and change people's lives. See the wonders and beauty that make you who you are, because at the end of the day, you have a unique gift that no one else has. You have incredible potential, so don't waste your time feeling insecure because it's not good for you.
You must keep in mind that there are eyes on you, watching every move you make and anchoring their beliefs on you. Sometimes, it’s understandable that you feel no one cares, no one loves me, and no one likes me. But it’s just in your head. It accumulates inside your mind, becoming poisonous as the day progresses. Who could have told you that you are beautiful if you were hiding in your dark, dusty room? No one! In doing so, nobody will come to you and remind you how special you are.
Sometimes, when you are overpowered and overwhelmed by some situations, it is important that there is someone who believes in you. Someone who truly loves you and cares for you no matter what you become in the process. Fear of getting hurt and being unaccepted are the two common reasons why we don’t trust others to come into our process. And I think this is such a horrible mindset that needs to be plucked so it won’t grow. I believe that if there is at least one person, one person who can accompany you and share what happened to you, it will help to negate the insecurities you had.
Change your mindset like this!
Do not look at things with judgmental eyes, but rather look at things with curiosity to avoid insecurities. Can you believe that switching your mindset to one that is more deep and parallel to your current one will bring unexpected growth and change?
Curiosity brings wonder, which helps to develop rational thinking. Instead of judging others like, "Oh, this person is chubby!" Then why don’t you wonder about what kind of life this person has had that he got to that point? It’s way better to address it in that kind of way, and it’s also applicable to how you judge yourself.
Learn how to speak life to yourself because it allows you to understand the scope of your potential. It enables you to empower yourself and acknowledge that you are still lacking at the same time. The word you use to talk about yourself should be something that is better than the negativities around you. Talking with thoughtful words can overcome your insecurities, mistakes, and flaws in life.