After months of suffering from depression I am going to give you my secret to success. It took months of research and therapy before I beat depression,
Dear concerned,
I’ll take a different approach to answer your question. Let me take you beyond the medical science’s definition and cure of depression and anxiety. Let us understand these issues in a broader prospective.
Let us first understand, what is depression ? In my opinion depression is a mild sadness which keeps once engulfed permanently into it. Physical symptoms of depression are only the reflections of one’s state of mind over one’s body.
Depression always has a trigger and this trigger will either be once incidence or a number of incidences over a period of time. This incidence or number of incidences can be of different natures like, distance from a loved one, relationship setbacks, financial setbacks, peer pressure etc etc. But they all have one thing in common and ie. incidences or situations which one was not expecting to happen or be in.
Now in order to understand depression, let’s understand its root cause ie. sadness. Sadness as we all know is a state of mind just like happiness. Now the question is what causes sadness and what causes happiness ? The simplest answer is, fulfilment of any desire causes happiness and non fulfilment of any desire causes sadness. Let me give you an example. Suppose one is in love with a person and plans to spend rest of his/her life with that person. However after a while for some reason that person goes away and one feels enormous sadness over this incident. Now understand what caused sadness in this case, one’s desire or expectation did not get fulfilled. Take another example. One is making good money at business, has plans to buy a house or car and etc etc. Now one fine day his business starts crashing. He loses all the money he had. All his future plans go for a toss and it all causes sadness to him. See again, the reason for sadness is again that his desires or plans or expectations didn't turn out the way he wanted.
Same goes for happiness. Suppose one wants to achieve a certain financial success in his life and he has achieved it and he keeps on enjoying it, he remains happy. The reason for happiness is again that his desire got fulfilled. You can take any example and this rule will apply to every situation in life.
Now understand, our mind keeps on desiring all the time. And all it desires can not be fulfilled. Some of the desires may get fulfilled and some may not in this life time. So everyone will get his/her quota of happiness and sadness in one’s life. We all enjoy our happy days but the problem starts when we refuse to acknowledge that we are also supposed to get our quota of sadness. When things go haywire , out of our control, we start getting gloomy. The depression starts when instead of accepting the new reality, we keep on dwelling in the past. One keeps on thinking that how can so bad happen to him/her ? Without realising that he/she never asked the same question when everything was going good for him/her. When one refuses to accept the change and keeps on thinking about things which didn't go his/her way, we call him/her depressed.
The antidote for depression
I don’t know your specific situation so I can only offer what has worked for me.
One first needs to understand that nothing remains forever. Change is the only constant. Happiness and sadness are two sides of the same coin as they both take birth from a single source ie. desire. If one wants happiness then one must be prepared to face sadness. The first step towards getting out of depression is accepting the reality, accepting the change. Only after accepting the reality one can look beyond it.
Second step is realising that only you belong to yourself. Whatever you call yours has always belonged to others before you and will belong to others after you, be it anything. If one realises this simple truth, one will never attach himself/herself to anything or anyone and will never be sad.
Third step is opening yourself to the world. World is not about feeling sad over one person or one situation. One needs to get out of his/her narrow world and see the vastness of Nature. Open all the windows of your house and your mind and let the Nature fill it with new things. Go for a walk every morning, see the people around, feel the morning breeze. Once you open your mind, you’ll soon realise how stupid it was to keep it shut.
there is no cure for depression,But how can you handle it.
The cure for depression is not in the pills given by a doctor. The cure starts when you accept the laws and system of Nature. When you let go your ego a little bit and accept what comes your way. It starts when you realise that happiness and sadness are both part and parcel of one’s life. Make peace with it and move on.
Regards