It is not right to listen to what others have to say, always remember that we should not listen to them but only to ourselves.
Life is never been easy, not like what we can saw on a movies, series, TV or in every show. Nor our neighbor, nor an us. Sometimes you just have to learn from pain, learn from life's experiences and learn from life's trials, just go through it if the time comes when you don't know what to do. Don't let sadness swallow you, don't let pain swallow you. Don't let those knock you down.
Maybe there will be a time when you will listen to others, there will be a time when you will be deaf to your own. But it's wrong, it shouldn't be like that. When you are confused, take a deep breath and close your eyes.
Think about it, you are in the challenge of life where you must decide for yourself, and for your own good. It's not wrong to listen to others, it's not wrong to listen to others and ask for their opinion. The problem with that is, you won't be able to focus on your own preferences because you'll think, "Maybe they're right?", so whatever you are planning will be ignored. You will be filled with questions about the possible results.
Always remember that you are stronger than a rock, you will only be break when you really give up.
There are times that even I listen to others, especially when I don't know what to do. It's like being confsed, I'm losing focus. I'm focused on what others say and when I really can't do anything, I follow that. I know most of us are like this, especially sometimes our decision depends on what they say.
Also because we listen to others, sometimes we become dependent on them especially when we know ourselves that we are not okay. You don't always use other people to be strong, what if they are gone? What if you get to the point where you're really the only one there? What will you do to help yourself if you are used to the presence of others? You will have a hard time, you will have a hard time because you will say in your mind, "I need someone ..", what if they are busy? What if they are doing something important and you disturb them?
There are times when it seems like everything is blurry to me, the type where you want to understand something but you can't so the choices you have is to listen to what others have to say. We let them be our guide, not because we don't know how to listen to ourselves but because we are in a part that is messed up in all of us. Even me, I will not deny that I am like that sometimes. But the more exciting part is that I learn to listen then I learn to be true to myself.
Sometimes I get asked, like, "Is this right?", or maybe I get to say to myself, "Why is it like this?", but, even sometimes the result of things that are planned fail me, that's not an obstacle for me to smile and laugh. That won't stop me from participating again, I'm just thankful because no matter how many times I come to the part where I tell myself that I don't know what to do anymore, I'm still here and making everything a lesson.
When we listen to the arili nain, it is a huge help, especially when we are in the part where everything is almost too chaotic and we can hardly understand everything. The type where we look for an answer within ourselves without depending on what others say. I can only smile and then I can say, "it's okay, I'll listen to myself first now."
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