A relationship is very difficult, but what baffles me is that everybody chooses to point fingers when things are not going right instead of looking inward and focusing their energy on the main problem. People always just point fingers, we are in a world where it is easy for everybody to just point fingers even at those people we claim we love, we make choices like that to tell ourselves that we are not wrong, which is not always the truth and this happens because most people don’t want to take responsibility. We believe responsibility should be split between you and your partner, between you and the government, and between you and your friends,we believe relationships don’t have to be one-sided.
I am not trying to tell you that you should stay in a relationship with someone who is treating you badly but what I’m trying to say is that sometimes instead of having the mentality of splitting responsibility why don’t you put yourself in a position whereby you don’t depend on your partner or your friend or the government to do their share before you do your share, why don’t you take responsibility hundred percent yours, this way you can determine the outcome of everything because everything depends on you and also this way you can easily make a better choice because you’re not depending on one outcome before you carry out any action.
Pointing fingers is a way of saying you failed yourself.
Most people believe that for a relationship to work, you have to depend on the other person, and if the other person is not making moves you don’t have to do anything and they put this idea on everything that they are doing in their lives. This means they don't take full responsibility for anything and also makes it comfortable for them to point fingers and blame another person for their misfortune, they don't accept blame but someone or thing is responsible for their mistakes. It is always better to be in total control instead of expecting another person's action to determine action. It is always better to plan for every worst-case scenario with our plan so that we can get ahead of anything that might hinder our success, It is important to always give one hundred percent from our side.
Stop pointing fingers and give 100%
If you are still blaming traffic or blaming your government for what they are not doing for you, it only means that you are still pointing fingers and not giving 100%. Why don’t you build your life in such a way that you don’t have to depend on any government or your partner or anybody before you do the things you have to do, this way you are giving 100%. Always remember that no matter how bad the traffic is some people get to work early, and no matter how bad the economy is some people are still building houses and buying expensive cars. Until we develop the mentality of giving 100% we may not see significant changes in our lives, but when we choose to always give our hundred percent in any aspect of our life a great change always comes with it.
Thanks for your time.