We all have people on whom we have relied in the past, and when they disappoint us, it feels as if we have nothing to do with them anymore, but time passes, we heal, and move on. Human beings can adapt to almost anything as long as they are conscious and breathing.
Everyone wants to survive, no matter how dirty the game or survival conditions are. When it comes down to it, we will literally choose ourselves over anything else, but it is all about survival and nothing personal. We are wired to prioritize our survival; sometimes these default instincts lead to habits that can be mistaken for selfishness, and unless we train ourselves to be better, we will just keep choosing ourselves, betraying others, breaking loyalty rules, and so on.
I have a cousin who helped a guy in the trenches get a job where he was working. After many years of working, my cousin became the manager of the place, but the guy he brought from the trenches got him fired and replaced him.
The BRO CODE
The bro clearly violated the loyalty code by pursuing greater financial success at the expense of the person who had brought him out of the trenches. Perhaps it is just me, but I find it difficult to prioritize self over loyalty. I have had numerous opportunities to choose gains over loyalty, but I find it extremely difficult.
On the surface, it may appear to be selflessness or sheer value, but in reality, I am doing it for myself.
How do I mean?
Betraying people is difficult because I would rather lose beneficial gains than lose people themselves.
Money is fleeting
.........it (money) has no consciousness; it is a means of acquisition, but it cannot take you to the hospital on a cold snowy day, nor can it send you encouraging words when you are down. It may make you comfortable and put you in a reasonable financial position, but it will eventually run out and all of your comfort will be lost.
Choosing people instead is analogous to choosing the cow over the milk, or the chicken over the egg. Money may be refined, but having people is the true raw material.
I have done business with many people and witnessed the good, bad, and ugly. Meeting people and forming close relationships with them allows you to better understand human nature. Loyalty is invaluable. In this mindless world, we need mindful people, but meeting good people without encountering bad people is nearly impossible.
When it comes to survival, you require a population that is distinct from the general population. I am not saying people can not be selfish; the essence of consciousness is the ability to develop our own values, but we have come to realize that we can not exist alone, no matter how often life tells us we have to fight our battles alone.
There are certain things we can and cannot do, which is why a single person cannot have both reproductive organs. It is why a person cannot build a company alone, and no matter how brutal some people can be in the game of gains, we still need others to achieve a lot of individual and collective success.
The Hurt Of Consequences
I have heard stories of people who have been ruined by trusting or befriending the wrong people, but no matter how saddened, wrecked, or hurt we were by their actions, the fact that we are alive to move on means that we will eventually move on, and even meet others, despite any trust issues we may develop; this is known as the ability to adapt and continue. We adapt and move; no one hates themselves.
We may project feelings of hatred onto ourselves as a result of betrayal or ill treatment from others, but deep down, we love ourselves and want to improve.
This is why we can meet people, unmeet them, and then meet others. We are designed to be adaptable; we are born alone, but we meet and form bonds with a variety of people throughout our lives. The people we meet frequently shape our knowledge, what we know, and how we change, and this is how we develop some of our values.
At one point in time, we know to seek loyal people.
Loyalty is Expensive
Even dishonest people desire loyal companions in their lives. It is simple to cheat a loyal person, use them for your benefit, and then dump them. You may believe that good people receive only good things, but you are mistaken; most of the time, the worst things happen to good people, which is the illogic of life.
Survival or the benefits of life drive people to be selfish and cruel; we can not change that; most of the time, we are lucky to have good people, and sometimes we are unlucky, and we do nothing to change that.
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