For some, it may come naturally, something they have always done, while for others it may take a lot of work, but having adequate and healthy self-esteem that allows us to love ourselves is what leads us to feel secure and satisfied with our body and spirit, in a combination of both.
A few days ago, talking to someone I know, the subject of adolescence in women came up and how we often don't feel comfortable with ourselves, we see ourselves as ugly, or that everything looks bad on us, and I think that's a process that many women go through because of the changes we undergo. Men are different, they go through their changes, but not like us, and it's very hard.
That reminded me of when I didn't like the changes that were happening to me. I hadn't learned to value myself, to like myself, to love myself, and I looked at myself in the mirror and saw myself as ugly, very ugly. That's why I wore black, baggy clothes. I didn't want my curves to show. I was starting to develop very nice curves, but to me that was strange.
It took a long, long time, but by changing my mindset and the way I saw myself, I began to like myself, and today I like myself a lot. I look in the mirror and feel beautiful, attractive, and very feminine. I like what I see, and that in turn is reflected on the outside. If I look good, others will too. I always say it's a matter of vibration and we have to start with ourselves. But I can't deny that it was hard work that I did on my own, no one guided me or taught me any of this.
Unconsciously, women need to be seen as beautiful, they need the approval of others, but little is taught about self-approval and liking ourselves, loving ourselves, that takes a process.
Today, seeing myself and liking myself, every part of my body from my hair to my feet, is what makes me feel feminine and confident, regardless of what others think, regardless of whether they look at me when I walk down the street or go to the beach, it doesn't matter.
Learning to value my body, to feel comfortable, very comfortable with it, to value it makes me feel attractive to myself, and that in turn attracts attention.
I used to think that having good curves, good proportions, being slim but with good feminine attributes was attracting attention, and I hid myself away. Today, that is no longer the case. Today, I enjoy my figure and I love it. Attracting myself makes me feel very confident about my physique and who I am. I used to think that all clothes looked bad on me, I wasn't happy. That changed radically once I did some inner work and started to like what I saw in the mirror, and I like it a lot.
I feel very feminine, and I'm not one of those women who wear makeup or provocative clothes. I'm very natural in that regard. On the contrary, I don't usually wear makeup, just eyeliner, lipstick or gloss, and little else. I don't wear low-cut tops either, in fact, almost never, nor do I wear very tight clothes, but the way I carry myself is what makes the difference. I think the change came from within.
In short, I think I would say that what makes me feel feminine, attractive and confident is loving myself, liking myself a lot, without needing anyone else's approval.
Some processes take work, but if you have perseverance and willpower, you can achieve them. Thank you @galenkp for these excellent weekend topics.
And thank you all very much for joining me today. I wish you a very good weekend. See you soon.
Amonet.
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