WEEKEND-ENGAGEMENT TOPICS: WEEK 194 /REJECTION? WHAT DO I CARE?

Human beings are social beings as Plato said in ancient Greece. Our first socialization space is our home. Our family is the first human group we relate to. As we grow up, our personality and our identity are shaped within the family space. It is the first space in which we face recognition or rejection. In my childhood and early youth my home was a space of refuge. I was very quiet, it was hard for me to relate to other people. I was very quiet and loved books. But at home, with my sisters, there was no rejection, there was complicity.

School was the first place of rejection. In a place where very alert and self-confident children studied. An insecure and quiet girl was not very well accepted. She had few friends, few people to talk to. It was only when she returned home that dialogue was possible. Until I arrived at the University to study literature. There we were all weird, we were all a bit pathological, most of us had visited psychiatrists or were visiting them.

For many years I wanted to fight against rejection, I didn't want to feel out of place, I didn't want to accept my loneliness, my rebellious nature, my desire to live my own way and not fit into the social parameters. Being a woman who didn't want to be successful, being a woman who didn't want to get married or be a mother. But when I reached maturity I understood that it was okay, that I gave myself permission to be the way I wanted to be and I didn't care what others thought. Now, I don't care if someone rejects me or not. If someone doesn't like me the way I am, that's their business. They can go back where they came from.