As relationships develop, they are subjected to change. It does not matter if the idea of passion is in the head of both. If you are doing it like rabbits. If you cannot take your hands from each other. All the fire fades away. But it is not like it is dead. It becomes an ember that requires some air to breathe and reignite.
The fade of passion in a relationships is something easy to understand and feel. It starts when people get comfortable around each other. The idea of trying to impress your partner stops being a driving force. It is not a bad thing. We are not always in the mood to be playing our best selves. It is exhausting. And building a relationships means being able to be vulnerable around someone else.
In my particular case, my relationship is no so old that it needs too much work around passion. However, I do know my girlfriend and I suffer from the same thing that cuts passion away. It is a drive to work until exhaustion. Hers is bigger than mine. That much I know. The way in which we work around this is not much about communication. That is there, but the fact that we still get to make the silliest and dirtiest jokes possible whenever we get a chance or whenever one of us falls with words into an inuendo is astonishing. I bet people would be terrified and would cringe is they could listen to the things we tell each other.
And we have also adopted the tradition of binge-watch series. That happens on Sundays. As workloads keep getting bigger and bigger —that's what she said—, we have taken the chance to spend a day together usually doing nothing. Most often than not, getting handsy. And regularly, enjoying each other's company.
Maybe if our situation were different, the ideas to keep passion alive would also be different. I have lived with a girlfriend before. In that time, what killed the passion was the fact that her emotions were always out of control. She would be ecstatic or depressed. And I had to deal with all of that. Becoming a caretaker became an imposed responsibility. And then, there was no passion left. I wonder if that could happen now. Who knows? I know for a fact that it is not something I would like to see or live again.
However, since I'm a helpless romantic. I would take the chance to do a big romantic gesture in the way my girlfriend likes. A private gesture. So that might work towards keeping passion alive. Besides, I know how to cook. That works. And I also like to keep things tidy. And she loves watching me do that. There is always a way. And they do not have to be the most elaborated things. For me, I think passion dies when communication does.
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