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Usually meeting people, friends and relatives is interesting and fun. Especially those with whom your creative and jovial vibe matches to be the best and involves loads of fun and realistic understanding, before one crosses the thin line drawn in any relationship.
People often have the strange habit of crossing that thin line, pretty often and intentionally or sometimes unintentionally hurt with the shocking level of sarcasm. Though one might not react on the prompt but it hurts ones sentiments and they gradually withdraw away from such people, friends and relatives in particular who tend to be more frequent in visiting and meeting ones in the family, close, near of even far off ones.
After such bitter sweet experiences and intentional desire to stay away from such relations becomes necessary and important to retain ones dignity, pride and self-esteem. Though, they are addicted to make sarcasm out of anything of what you say but most of the times, avoiding or ignoring doesn’t work and you are expected to interact with them, somehow, no matter what the issue is, there is need to maintain cordial relations with all such relatives, irrespective of their unusual or sarcastic behaviour.
For sure, you are going to meet such relatives at various family functions, occasions etc. and there comes the need to be socially courteous and extend all the expected warmth, usually that doesn’t come naturally for them, however you have to pretend to be nice and good, particularly when past experiences with them have bred some level of discomfort and uneasiness.
Welcoming such kind of relatives with a pleasing smile, painfully, feels forced and hard to portray and project, especially knowing their true thoughts and feelings for you.
Though they would still like to find lacunae in you, no matter how little conversation you do, but that endless small talk boringly dragged and full of hollow chitchats and that uncomfortable awkward silence and quietness sadly feels like continuing something that has no emotional depth or any connection in it. Strangely enough, it feels pretty weird.
Ohhh! Never forget those stupid and inappropriate punch lines. It becomes the habit of some relatives to forcefully make indirect backhanded comments that are pretended to be camouflaged as humour and fun, but crossing such personal boundaries and those thin lines of self-respect and dignity sometimes leaves emotional bruises on ones thought process for the sake of self-esteem. Sadly, some hardly understand this aspect and continue unabatedly with their pathetic masked jokes.
Ofcourse, those Show-Offs, about their wealth, lavish lifestyle and what not is such a pain, seriously. Endless self-glorification just makes the entire atmosphere so suffocating, choking and unbearable that one would want to just run away. Totally serious about it.
Ohhh! That unnecessary interference, poking, enquiring from anything to everything happening from your personal life to your career choices and their unwanted career advice's seem overpowering and consuming and you are really not interested in them, still you got to pretend as if you are listening to them with all ears.
OMG!, Seeing that sudden affection, attention and over friendliness, from the ones who were once totally indifferent, looks practically hollow and hiding selfish objectives and motives that only adds too much of discomfort, evidently felt, experienced and openly observed. This really very easily gets caught, for sure.
Ohhh! Those frivolous comments and steering the jealous vibes and feelings, the grudging connotations and that super obvious dull, boring and mindless chatter is completely demeaning that won’t serve any purpose at all. Am very sure, each of you must have gone through this at one point of time.
Sadly enough, to see, believe and observe that relatives who pretend to smile in front of you are the ones who criticise you, behind your back, the sooner you turn away and openly drain your trust, making those stereotype interactions and communications, typically mentally and emotionally exhausting, fatiguing and draining. Real sad state.
Paradoxically, when you are bombarded with uncomfortable questions about your salary, your private life and or even your affairs are not only unpleasant, disturbing and invasive rather often laden with mysterious personal agendas to exploit your personal statements in the most idiotic manner.
I really wish and personally feel, if god could impart wisdom to such relatives and they learn and understand to keep their interactions brief and concise, stay within and establish kind and polite boundaries and limits not to hurt or exploit anyone rather keep a focus on neutral topics of reasonable and limited discussions that are not mentally disturbing and agonising, by suitably preserving peace and totally without breaking any ties with their selfless objective and portrayal of true, loyal, purposeful and meaning relations within undefined yet specified limits that are obviously understood by all.
So, that's all about this week's topic which I'm doing for the reason behind it, since I felt closely associated with TOPIC 1 for the #weekendexperiences for Week 266 contest, Thankyou! @galenkp.
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Sincerely,
@cryptofairy