There are six-weekend concepts to choose from this week, and I chose the third one on the list, which is the for the men, and states the following question,
If there was one personality trait you were able to change in women, what would it be and why? This can be women generally or specifically your own partner. A post of 300+ words is the minimum requirement, and use photos you took yourself if you can.
I cannot describe how important women are in society, especially in a man’s life. They are one of the reasons we continue to exist and gave birth to a new seed of life. Their value as individuals is too great not to notice, given the fact that they are gaining more freedom than in previous eras. However, men and women are not perfect beings. We still have flaws and imperfections that make us human.
If there is one personality trait I would like to change for women, it would be their struggle to express themselves clearly. Our expression is our way of showing what we feel and think. But not all the time, it is interpreted the way we want it to be interpreted because we all have different reasoning, cultures, and environments where we grew up.
Thus, I see some women truly struggling to say what they really want to say and convey. They tend to say nonsensical things that are way too far from their objective. That is why whoever they are talking to has difficulty understanding it. Especially when women argue, men don’t know what they want or what they are after. So, we, as men, tend to take unnecessary actions that fire up the problem even more.
I’ve had plenty of girl friends, and I've experienced their struggle to express themselves, especially when the issue is large and they are involved. Unlike men, we can straightforwardly express and deliver the message we want to convey. No flowery words or zigzag points that make the person confused.
However, the problem doesn’t only concern the people around them; it concerns them as well. In any case, because they are struggling, they choose not to speak directly, which I think ripples into another problem. It’s like they are holding back their true opinion and agenda. The sad part is that because of their suppression, it creates manipulative behavior wherein they tend to believe their opinion is not necessary anymore because it’ll be misinterpreted again.
I don’t understand why women feel great pressure to cover up their true emotions. It’s like a burden that keeps piling up until it’s too much to handle. They tend to break down and be lost. What I mean is that there is a never-ending cycle of struggling to express themselves. Losing yourself from that cycle will not be easy, but I know for sure that some women have full access to their true selves.
So, for women who constantly have difficulty expressing themselves, if your first application failed. Then, you can change your attitude and plan to resolve it once again. But also, I want you to know that being a woman and your existence is enough for us, men, to understand you whole. You don't need to change just because we tell you so, change because you know that change will help to make you grow as a person.
The idea of changing one’s personality trait may take a while because it’s something that cannot be changed overnight. I would like to argue that a change can happen successfully when people have a higher awareness of themselves and are willing to do so. That is also a way for self-improvement and create a better version of yourself by undergoing process after process.